Why did you just click on an article about Burmese girls?
Seriously, I really want to know because a couple of months ago I still believed that Burma and Myanmar are two different countries (yes, I’m an idiot). I mean, I met dozens of guys who had Thai or Filipina girlfriends, but I never met a guy who introduced me to his Burmese girlfriend.
Then I received an email from the Diplomat.
I call him the Diplomat because he’s a reader who wants to stay anonymous…and he’s a retired diplomat. He asked me if I have ever been to Myanmar. I wasn’t sure if he was talking about myasthenia or mayonnaise.
“If you ever come to Mandalay, I’ll treat you for dinner.” He wrote in his email.
Back then I didn’t know that I would meet him and his Burmese wife…
What the Diplomat Taught Me about Dating in Myanmar
I didn’t travel to Naypyidaw, the capital of Burma. Instead, I combined a visit to Chiang Mai with a two-day trip to the city where the Diplomat wanted to meet me.
It only took me one and a half hours to fly from Chiang Mai to Mandalay.
The diplomat wanted to meet me at the Mingalabar restaurant. He sent me the address via email and I arrived at about 7 pm.
I enjoyed our conversation, the food, and the beauty of his Burmese wife…who’s at least 20 years younger than him.
“Do you live on a retirement visa?” I asked him.
“No. You can’t get a retirement visa in this country. My wife and I live in Australia, but we try to visit Mandalay every couple of weeks. Her family lives here, you know.”
He told me about all the positive qualities of Burmese women, their traditional values, how he met his wife 16 years ago, and that he still can’t understand why Thailand gets all the male attention while Myanmar gets ignored.
According to him, dating Myanmar girls is like a beautiful secret that nobody knows about.
Here’s what his 16 years of experience taught him…
8 Facts about Burmese Girls (and Their Qualities)
I have to be honest. I had no idea about the qualities of Burmese women. Heck, before my flight from Chiang Mai to Mandalay I didn’t even know how they look.
Now I know. They look like her…
Most of them wear traditional dresses. No tattoos, no revealing clothes…just natural beauties who look as innocent as a traditional Asian woman can look.
But they had something in their faces that irritated me…
1. The Women in Burma are Light-Skinned and Light-Hearted
“Don’t be irritated when a Burmese girl you meet online shows up with a white cream on her face. It’s not the sperm from the last guy…hahaha.”
He laughed so loud that the people in the restaurant stared at us.
His wife giggled. I made notes.
Apparently, this cream is called Thanakha and it is either white or yellow and made from ground bark. He told me that he had to convince his wife that it doesn’t help against acne, aging, and sunlight.
Sometimes the women use it to display their social hierarchy. But don’t ask me about the different color, consistency, and ways to apply it. You can ask the Burmese girls you’ll chat with.
2. Burmese Girls Don’t Talk to Strangers (Unless They are Online)
At least not if you approach them on the street.
Burma girls are extremely shy. In case you think that Thai girls are shy when you approach them in public, you’ve never approached a girl on the streets of Mandalay.
- She giggles.
- She stutters.
- She apologizes and walks away as fast as she can.
That’s the reality of approaching women in Myanmar. But there’s an alternative reality, a virtual reality.
No, not this kind of virtual reality!
I’m talking about a world where they can forget about their cultural chains…the world of online dating.
3. The Women in Myanmar Speak Better English than Ever Before
I have good news and bad news for you.
The bad news is that the women in Myanmar don’t have the world’s best English skills. What a surprise, I know.
The good news is that it’s getting better.
The Diplomat told me that his wife could barely speak English when he met her. She could only speak a few words because she worked in a hotel for two years.
“I’m envious of you young guys. When I met my wife nobody was interested in learning English. Nowadays they all want to learn English.”
4. On Paper Myanmar Girls Have the Same Rights as Men
Yes, on paper, but only on paper.
Even though they can own property, can work in the same industries, and can get a divorce, there are still reasons why Aung San Suu Kyi doesn’t think about retiring.
It’s not like in the West.
Burmese women still dream about a life in freedom and for a lot of them a foreign husband is a part of their dream.
5. Your Hot Burmese Girlfriend Has Worked as a Nanny or Maid
What if you meet a Burmese girl in Bangkok, Singapore, or Kuala Lumpur?
She probably works as a nanny or as a maid. And while dating a sexy Burmese maid is something that most men fantasize about, it’s also dangerous.
“There’s a 50% chance that she has an affair with her employer and there’s a 99% chance that his wife and their three poster children don’t know it. Be careful. Some men would do anything to hide their skeletons in their closet.”
I thanked him for the advice.
6. Myanmar Girls are more Traditional than Filipinas (But Their Government Isn’t)
Myanmar girls are very traditional, but their government is quite liberal, at least when it comes to dating.
I mean, if you date a Filipina and you want to marry her, you have to remember that it’s illegal to get a divorce. And if you date a girl from Laos, you have to keep it a secret because having sex with her is forbidden by law.
What about dating in Burma? No worries!
It’s legal to date, marry, and divorce a local woman.
“I married my wife because I love her, but I didn’t put myself under pressure. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. That’s what I thought. 16 years later and I still love her.”
7. Your Burmese Bride Can Take Care of Her and Your Family
What if you live with your parents? No problem!
What about your grandmother? She can cook for her too!
According to the Diplomat, Burmese brides are more independent than Filipinas and Thai girls.
He told me how his wife was working full-time, taking care of her younger brother and sister, and visiting her grandmother twice a week. Wow, some Thai girls are already overwhelmed by walking without staring at a smartphone.
She's not afraid to use that thing
“Marrying a Burmese woman was the best decision I ever made” - The Diplomat
8. You Won’t be Dating a Metropolitan Burmese Lady
But there’s one thing he warned me about.
The women in Mandalay, Naypyidaw, and even the ones in Yangon are not comparable with the girls in Bangkok.
Burmese ladies…
- Are not used to high-rises, subways, and skylines.
- Haven’t had access to Western values and culture (thank God!).
- Don’t know anything about the metropolitan lifestyle.
Where's the skyline?
The diplomat told me that his wife almost puked in the Skytrain in Bangkok because she was so scared.
“I felt like in one of those movies where a kid who grew up in the jungle sees the big city for the first time. It was hilarious and cute at the same time.”
7 Tips on Meeting Your Burmese Girlfriend (or Wife)
“You know, words can’t describe how much I love my wife. I’m so thankful that I met her. I will never forget the day I saw her for the very first time. She worked in this hotel I stayed at and I was too shy to approach her. Hahaha. I’m glad I did it anyway.”
He gave her a kiss on the head.
“But you know what? Today I wouldn’t wait until I meet the perfect girl in the lobby of a hotel. I would do what you young guys do…”
His Australian accent made me laugh. What he said next made me laugh even more.
9. Scott Hasn’t Met His Burmese Wife on AsianDating But…
“How do you call that again…tinker, right?”
He meant Tinder and he was quite surprised when I told him that Tinder is actually one of the worst ways to meet girls in Asia, at least if you’re looking for quality women who don’t call spreading STDs their favorite hobby.
I told him about AsianDating, a site with more than 2.5 million members.
He was so excited that he wanted me to show him my profile.
- I logged into my account.
- I showed him the dashboard.
- I searched for women in Myanmar.
Here's what he saw:
758 female members from Myanmar
His eyes revealed that he wanted to chat with all of them. His wife’s eyes revealed that she wanted to kill me for showing him this site.
Check out my review of the best dating site to meet Myanmar girls
10. You Don’t Have to Travel to Myanmar to Meet Burmese Girls
Back in the year 2000, there were more than 67.000 Burmese people in Thailand. Today there are even more and most of them are women who are working abroad.
Remember, the nannies and maids.
What does that mean for you?
It means that you don’t even have to travel to Myanmar to meet these girls. There are more Burmese-speaking people in Thailand than English-speaking expats…and there are a lot of Australian, English, and American expats.
Visit me in Bangkok and you can meet thousands of Burmese women...
You can also find them in Thailand, Singapore or in Malaysia. No matter where which Asian country you visit, there will be Burmese girls.
11. You are Looking for Burmese Bar Girls? Go Home!
There’s something you need to know about this country:
- Yangon doesn’t have a Nana Plaza or a Soi Cowboy.
- Mandalay doesn’t have a Walking Street.
- Naypyidaw isn’t Angeles City.
If you’re looking for Burmese bar girls, you can turn around. Go home.
You won’t find a lot of them. I mean, you can of course go to some run-down brothel, but you’re lucky if you make it out alive and without Gonorrhea.
This is no country for sex tourists.
12. You Can Meet Burmese Party Girls in Yangon (Not in Mandalay)
What if you still want to meet the kind of girls your mom warned you about?
Well, you can check out the FUSE club in Yangon.
Or you can check out…
- Channel V
- Pioneer
- Club 5 at the Parkroyal Hotel
All these clubs are in Yangon. None of them is in Mandalay, the city I visited. The only clubs that I could find in Mandalay were a bunch of dubious KTV bars. So I guess you can find bar girls in this country.
All I know is that the girls you meet there are neither girlfriend nor wife material.
13. It’s Nearly Impossible to Meet Burmese Women at Private Parties
There’s something about the Burmese dating culture that’s pretty weird.
“Women and men don’t talk to each other, at least not at private parties or events. The men sit on the right side and all the beautiful women sit on the left side. The men are talking to the men and the women are talking to the women. It’s weird. Just imagine if you switched sides. Everyone would stare at you. It’s not a sexist thing. It’s because the people in Myanmar believe that men enjoy talking to men more than to women. Come on, I’m not gay!”
He laughed out loud.
Yep, he’s right. It’s strange. And it makes it a lot harder to meet women.
14. Only Date a Myanmar Girl from the Chin State if You are Willing to Rescue Her
The diplomat continued his rant about dating Burmese women…
“I know a guy who’s married to a girl who grew up in the Chin State. That’s the poorest region in the country. It’s the Isaan of Myanmar. Most of these people are poor farmers who have never seen a light bulb, at least not one that works. The girls are extremely traditional and make good wives. But they are poor, very poor. A man should only date one of these girls if he’s willing to rescue her from the poverty. Don’t be one of those assholes who promise her the world without keeping your promise.”
Once I did my research I understood what he meant…
15. Treat Your Burmese Girlfriend with Respect and She Will Cry Tears of Joy
Then he told me another funny story from his life…
“I will never forget the first time I went shopping with my wife. She was so excited. After the cashier put our stuff in the bags, she grabbed all the bags. She wanted to carry them. She didn’t let me carry one single bag. She was sweating. I bought a heavy camera, you know. I couldn’t look at her carrying all my stuff. I asked her to give me all the bags. You know what? She had tears in her eyes. Tears!”
He continued…
“Another day I cooked dinner for her. Nothing special, just a steak and some burned beans. Hahaha. Guess what? She had tears in her eyes because she couldn’t believe that a man was cooking for her. Man, you just have to be a gentleman and treat these ladies with respect. That’s the whole secret.”
Make her smile
- In Burma it’s normal that the women carry the bags.
- It’s normal that the man walks in front of her, not side by side with her.
- When she cooks for him, he gets served first. He doesn't cook.
The moral of the story:
It’s easy to give her the best experience she ever had.
It’s even easier to meet her on the largest Asian Dating site you’ve ever seen.
Summed Up Wisdom
A couple of months ago I visited Chiang Mai. Then I took a flight to Mandalay to check off Myanmar from my bucket list and to meet one of my readers.
He’s a retired Diplomat, has a beautiful Burmese wife and he’s pissed that he can’t get a retirement visa. However, he’s more than happy that his wife is such a traditional and light-hearted woman. He’s also a bit jealous because nowadays the girls speak better English…and wait for us on online dating sites.
You will be thankful that more and more sexy Burmese girls sign up on international dating sites because it’s hard to talk to them in public and it’s even harder to meet them at private parties. But once you met her, you can impress her by being a gentleman. Just be warned. She might cry.
That’s something very true, I had been posted and officially started my work here as an asian “expat” since 1st Jan 2019
The generation of girls in term of mentality is definitely different in each individual generations. I still and believed that burmese ladies are pretty in every aspect but majority of them are still very conservatives, unless they are “working girls”.
All brothers who thought of coming here to seek girls out for their pleasure or sexual indulgences, please reconsidered.
I had not even dare to approach any ladies by my over friendiness towards my female co-workers which had me distanding myself since then.
Rather sit down, enjoyed my Myanmar’s whisky than thought of anythings else. Anyway, I’m here to work, even if peer pleasures can be hard to resist, I will just sit down and enjoyed my broozing even I wanted so much just to have a female friend for casual friendship…
Guess respect is the key to me being able to survive me through till date. Burmese girls are pretty, gascinating and temptations, but please respect them as their culture of respecting ladies are being cultivated since young and ages ago.
If opportunities arises, I do like to have some female friends, really wants to understand more about their cultures and beliefs for my line of works often end up with groups of guys, all enjoying broozing and I don’t even know the languages, broozes bridged the different nationalities between us…
If a westerner marry a girl from Myanmar and want to take her out of the country, is it difficult with the paperwork/immigration?
I’m planning on going to Burma in November looking forward to the Culture and the beutfull ladys
Well put, I like a realist.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m happy to hear that from a Burmese woman.
That’s true! As the one of the burmese girls, we don’t usually have some respect and I felt the same since I was young because some cultural beliefs and non cultural beliefs. honestly saying, most guys don’t know how to treat light hearted woman and some do rude [even woman] in my opinion but your article warm my heart. Thank you
Nice article. But just one thing I’d like to point out as a Burmese woman in late 20s. Perhaps other people might have mentioned that already. The majority of Burmese girls do not want foreign husbands just for the sake of having freedom or whatever. Some women can be passport chasers, just like everywhere else around the world, but many educated and independent Burmese women simply do not dream about having a foreign boyfriend. Why? It’s because cultural clashes are exhausting and maintaining international relationships when you hold different traditional values can be extremely challenging! However, when you really fall in love, the nationality doesn’t matter anymore and you do your best to overcome the hardship because you love him/her as a person 😉 Love and willingness to compromise and learn each other’s culture will make it work.
Thanks for sharing.
Really, Sebastian? Really? Pardon me for not taking the diplomat’s advice seriously. After all, it was posted on a website called “globalseducer.” Most of the advice could be considered common sense, almost reminiscent of the golden rule: treat others nicely and you will be treated the same. But columns and blogs of this nature tend to come across like a pimply-faced high school kid at his first co-ed dance. “Wow! Look at all these gorgeous babes! All in traditional clothes! And I bet they like to cook and clean and bake muffins!”
I am not a big fan of cross-cultural relationships. I am neither for them or against them. I simply see them for what they truly are. Way too many pitfalls. A huge mismatch of social and financial proportions. The financial dependence of the female partner upon her husband can easily become dangerous and pathological. Far too many poor and destitute SE Asian women have been taken back to Korea, Japan, Taiwan, Europe, and the U.S. only to be beaten and abused. A very very bad idea, indeed.
To top it off, most of the men and women can never truly know one another. And it’s not just the language barrier. Several years ago while living and working in Phnom Penh, this story was related to me: it was the early 1990s. The Vietnamese army had just left. A tourist from Denmark came to the capital planning to spend a few months. He got to know a local woman. They talked, went out to dinner, and eventually became lovers. Being interested in history, he asked her on several occasions what she did during the Pol Pot regime. She always avoided this question, until one night when she confessed. They had spent several nights together making love, so it was only natural that he would want to know more about her. It turns out that she held a high position in the Khmer Rouge army. She took prisoners, including children. She would beat some of them; torture them. On one occasion, she caught a young boy stealing corn to feed his family. She tied him up, cut off his genitals, and…
I’ll stop there. The Danish tourist did not last a few months. He went home early. I’m not saying that this encounter is a common occurence. It certainly is not. But it illustrates my point. My point is this: we often don’t know who we are getting involved with. We can never know. For the most part, western men in Asia are dumb. They will believe just about any story that comes out of a sweet girl’s mouth. And, for the most part, SE Asian women are strong, tough, and hard as nails. You have to be all these things if you are living in a Burmese village. So spare me the “Oh she is so sweet and kind” stuff.
Having said all this, I’m glad I read this and took the opportunity to take part in the discussion.
You are absolutely right
🙂
Hey Shane,
thanks a lot. I’m sure there are a lot of women who would love that.
Great article! I have dated many women and really want to settle down. I am a long haul trucker and would love to have a mate ride with me. I am not bad looking generous and a lot of fun. Do you think a woman from
Myanmar would be open to living in a semi and traveling all over the USA?
Hey Stephen,
that’s awesome. I’m happy for you.
I have a Mon girlfriend, Mon are a people of Burma.
She is an absolute angel.
I treat her with respect, and she treats me better than any other women from any background ever has.
She is always happy and only wants the same for me.
She is from a very traditional rural family, and it shows in every part of her life, honest, hard working and loyal.
For me a relationship could not get any better.
I doubt that she wants to come to India when she lives in Australia. But you can try.
I am loving a girl she is from Burma but I am Indian .but before she was staying in India . after that she went to Australia .now she settled in Australia .but now we r planning to marry with her .but I want to stay in India .how can I marry with her?.then after marriage she can come to India or wat.
Thanks for sharing!
I would like to correct one thing from this article.
Most of the Burmese girls, they don’t dream to marry a foreigner because of the traditional environment and cultural mind.
And It’s not in their wish list.
But Yes, they do marry with foreigners in case they fall in love very deeply.
I never said that Burmese girls are stupid…
Btw, it’s not easy to impress us. N not all Burmese girls in foreign countries are maids n nannies. N yes I agree, we treat the men with respect but, we want the same respect from them, too, not the other way around.
We cook for the ones we love, it’s no big deal for us. Ur article is good though, but, we are not that so stupid m dumb, just for information 🙂
Hey Avi,
then sign up on AsianDating.
I get quite a few hate comments from them. But 90% of the feedback is positive…especially from the girls I write about 🙂
I am surprised your website hasnt already be the target of femi nasies.
I would like to know a woman, for married.
I. Am 60 years old devorce without children looking good.