It’s time for the best first date ideas that will help you to survive your next date…
Congratulations! You have approached a girl who didn’t run away and who didn’t cover you in a cloud of pepper spray. She actually gave you her number and agreed to go on a date with you.
I simply assume that you already mastered the approaching phase and that you are able to get her real number without begging and calling the directory information. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be looking for some creative, adventurous and exciting first date ideas that allow you to cast a spell over her and to connect faster with her than Tiger Woods with an adult film actress.
That’s why I decided to create the ultimate list of activities you can do and places you can visit on your first date. I call it the ultimate list, because I didn’t just collect ten boring dating venues without even telling you why you should go there and how you can take things further.
I created a list with far over 100 dating ideas and I let you know…
– Why it’s a great dating venue or activity
– Which girls you should take there
– How you can take things to the next level
I don’t just say that a venue or an activity is awesome, because I say so. I tell you exactly why it is good (or not so good) and what you can do to transform this day into one of the best days of your and her life.
The Ultimate List of The Best First Date Ideas
Enjoy the following list, share it with your friends, tell me about your own experiences in the comments below and have the time of your life on your very first date with the woman of your dreams.
1. A Drink at the Bar
What do you usually do when you want to meet a woman between 7 pm and 9 pm?
You either try to convince her to come directly to your place, or you agree to meet her at a bar. While going to a bar is definitely one of the more common ways of spending your first date, it is not necessarily a bad idea.
Go there with extroverted girls who are into the bar scene, do some research and find a hip bar where you can enjoy a couple of drinks. Due to the fact that a bar combines a laid-back atmosphere with the fact that it is socially acceptable for a woman to get touchy in this environment, it shouldn’t be too hard to sexually escalate.
2. Karaoke for Beginners
No, you don’t need to be the next Ed Sheeran to have a great time in a karaoke bar. In fact, it is even more fun if you can’t sign to save your life. This shows that you are playful and that you don’t take yourself so seriously.
In case the girl you want to seduce is into music and loves to sing, this is one of the best first date ideas I can think of. It is very easy to take things further when you are embracing each other and sing (or scream) “I will always love you!”
3. Cuddling at the Concert
There are other things you can do if you and the girl you are with are into music. Find out what bands she likes and invite her to a concert.
Cuddling and kissing her is fairly easy when she has tears in her eyes while she listens to her favorite song. Just make sure that you don’t forget to ask her about the bands or musicians she doesn’t like.
The last thing you want is to invite her to a Justin Bieber concert when she is a Metallica fan.
4. Partying at the Club
I write this article for you and not for me. That’s why I have to stay objective. Nevertheless, I can’t really recommend you to…
A: date emotionally unstable party girls
B: take them to a club on the first date
Of course that doesn’t mean that you can’t ignore my advice, hit on a crazy party girl, take her to a club, pop some pills and put a baby in her belly while she tells you that she takes the pill.
Okay, I am exaggerating a bit. In case you want to seduce a woman who is into clubbing and you love it too, there is nothing wrong in enjoying loud music and a tinnitus together.
5. Sharing Your Favorite Hobby
What’s your favorite hobby?
Maybe you love to work out. Maybe you love to knit. Maybe you are the biggest video game nerd on this planet.
Whatever it is that you love to do, share it with her.
A woman who agrees to go on a date with you wants to get to know you. She wants to know what kind of person you are and what you love to do. Allow her to get to know you by inviting her into your world.
6. Two Bookworms in the Bookstore
I absolutely love bookstore dates. Call me a nerd, call me a freak, I don’t care. I am into intelligent women who know the names of famous authors instead of the names of the Cash Money Records crew. In case you are into sexy bookworms, a date at the bookstore is perfect for you.
She will be happy because you are the first guy who takes her to the one place she loves the most and you will be happy because she will show you that she is not the innocent bookworm that she pretends to be around other people.
7. Night at the Museum
I have to disappoint you. You have to survive a day at the museum without a speaking Teddy Roosevelt, a crazy monkey that loves to pee on things and a T-Rex that chases his own bones.
Your date might not be as exciting as “Night at the Museum”, but if she is interested in culture and ancient art, the time after the date can be quite exciting, especially when you hold her hand while she is looking at the Mona Lisa.
8. Go for a Coffee but NOT to Starbucks
Going for a coffee might be THE most common thing to do on the first date, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t connect with a woman while the caffeine is rushing through your veins. It offers a quiet place to talk, to share your experiences and to touch her hands while you look her into the eyes.
Just don’t go to Starbucks. It’s pretty hard to set yourself apart from your competitors when she spent her last ten dates in the same Starbucks on the same chair with the same vanilla late.
9. Bowling for Love
When you think about bowling you might imagine The Dude from the Big Lebowski. When I think about bowling I think about fun competitions, a price for the winner and about showing her how to hold the bowling ball by touching her arms and hips.
I have never met a woman who said “no” to a round of bowling and I have also never been on a bowling date without getting a kiss as a booby price after I did everything in my power to lose the game.
10. An Expensive Dinner for Gold Diggers
In case you think that going to a club is the only activity that I am not a big fan of, I have to disappoint you. While I regard it as important to not erase the classic dinner date from the ultimate list of first date ideas, I also regard it as my duty to warn you about it.
There are several reasons why taking a girl to an expensive restaurant is a stupid idea:
- Touching her is not socially acceptable in such a place. She knows that and will act according to this rule.
- She expects you to pay for her. I mean, I would also be angry if someone would take me to an expensive restaurant where I have to pay 50 bucks for a freaking steak.
- it’s hard to find out if she went with you because she likes you or because she wanted to eat for free.
In case you want to ignore this advice you should make sure that you have enough money with you. She might order the most expensive wine on the menu.
11. The Cinema Move
The cinema can be a good venue when you want to seduce a girl who is totally into movies or who told you that she wants to see a particular movie. A drink afterwards allows you to connect with her.
If you, however, don’t go for a drink or to your place once the movie is over, you just waste your time. You haven’t talked, you haven’t connected with her. The only thing you did was to sneak your arm around her aka making the cinema move.
Good luck with the second date.
12. Be Childish in a Theme Park
Are you into playful girls?
I am and that’s why I love to take women to theme parks. It’s fun, it’s something that she probably has never done on the first date and it offers countless possibilities to touch and to hug her.
You just have to make sure that she is not one of those girls who have to vomit when she is riding the rollercoaster. There are some body fluids that you want to taste and others that you definitely don’t want to taste.
13. Sky-High on a Rooftop Bar
As you probably know, I call Bangkok my home. Whenever I go on a date with a beautiful Thai girl, I take her to a rooftop bar and there are a lot of reasons why I do it.
– Rooftop bars offer a breathtaking view.
– The atmosphere is relaxed and incredibly romantic.
– The ones I have been to have couches where you can cuddle and kiss without witnesses.
Go there and kiss her for the first time while you are looking over the whole city.
14. Splash in a Public Swimming Pool
It’s time for splashing and for rubbing your half-naked body against her half-naked body. No, I am not talking about going to a swingers club (we’ll get to that later). I am talking about going to a public swimming pool and having some fun.
Swimming can be fun, at least when you do everything besides swimming. Pull her under water. Throw her around. Hug her and make her wet. And yes, I am talking about the water you naughty bastard 😉
The best thing about a swimming pool date is that you have fun, you have a lot of body contact and you already see what you get.
15. Go Horseback Riding (A Pony Counts)
My ex-girlfriend had two horses and thanks to my sexual frustration I was dumb enough to sit on one of them. After one hour my balls felt like scrambled eggs.
Maybe you are from Texas and rodeo is your biggest passion. Horseback riding might be the perfect way to show her that you are an adventurous cowboy. In case she is into horses and you do it because you want to show her that you are willing to share her passion with her, you can also take a pony.
16. Sex on the Beach
A day on the beach can be the perfect first date. The sun is shining, the weather is hot and you are both half-naked. You put sunscreen on her, you massage her back and you fool around in the water.
You might enjoy the day so much that you stay at the beach until the sun goes down. It is totally okay to start the day with a sex on the beach (the cocktail) and to end it with sex on the beach (better than the cocktail).
17. Go to the Aquarium
I hope that you don’t make the acquaintance with a shark while you are having sex in the water, but I also hope that you see a big one when you are visiting an aquarium with her.
That’s the moment when she snuggles up to you (because she wants you) and you have to show her that you protect her from the beast (because you want her).
18. Play Miniature Golf
In case you think that miniature golf is just for kids and that strong alpha men don’t play this game, you are probably not a big fan of physical contact and of “the winner gets a kiss”. Again, a playful woman won’t say no to it.
Show her how to play it by standing right behind her and leading her arm. That’s incredibly creepy but highly effective. Tell her that the winner gets a kiss and pray to the gods above that she is not a professional miniature golf player.
19. A Walk in the Park
A walk in the park can be all that is needed to turn a simple date into an unforgettable afternoon. It doesn’t cost any money and it gives you plenty of time to connect with her and plenty of space to make out without getting caught.
The memory of the last date I had in a park puts a smile on my face. We were hiding behind a tree and making out the whole time. When it got dark we took things to the next level and made more than just making out.
20. Set the House on Fire in a Cooking Class
Can you cook?
I can’t even make a salad without burning the house down. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy a cooking class with a woman I want to end up in bed with. Even if you can’t cook, you can still have a lot of fun.
Go there with a girl who hasn’t been raised in the Western society and who is therefore better at cooking than binge drinking. Let her show you how it is done and make fun of yourself while you are destroying her pizza dough.
21. Enjoy a Wine Tasting Tour (but Not too Much)
Wine is fine but liquor is quicker. That might be true, but unless you want to make a girl drunk, which you shouldn’t do for several reasons, a wine tasting tour is the better option.
Enjoy the delicious taste of wine, pretend to taste the difference between a 30 year old South African wine and a hundred year old French wine and don’t forget to spit like lamas. If you don’t adhere to the spitting rule, your date might end with a puking festival.
22. Doing the Naked Man
One of the best first date ideas that you have probably never tried out is:
The Naked Man
In case you are not a big How I Met Your Mother fan, I’ll explain what The Naked Man is all about:
You are basically inviting a girl over, wait until she goes to the bathroom and use this time window to get naked. When she comes back you are completely naked and she is very confused (and hopefully turned on).
As a proof that I am not the only German who is insane, you should have a look at my fellow countryman who does The Naked Man:
23. Skydiving for the Heart Attack
Have you ever asked yourself how it would be to give a girl a heart attack on the very first date?
You can do this by doing the naked man, which is of course also a very sophisticated and effective first date idea, but you can also achieve this goal by transforming your date into a skydiving experience.
Please only do this when you are 100% sure that the girl you are with is into stuff like that. If she is scared of heights, she’d rather kills you than kiss you. If she is crazy enough to jump, I see no reason why you shouldn’t share this experience and the subsequent stay in the hospital with her.
24. The Passion of Salsa
Your name doesn’t have to be Julio and you also don’t have to be a Latino dancing instructor to use the passion of Salsa to make her want to jump right on you. There is a reason why everyone says that dancing is the vertical expression of a horizontal desire. It’s true.
The good thing about dancing in general and salsa in particular is that you and your partner are in an environment in which it is not only socially acceptable to touch each other, but required. Even if you have never touched her before, you will wrap your arms around her and pull her towards you when you are dancing.
25. Bungee Jumping for the Second Heart Attack
Remember how I talked about skydiving for her first heart attack?
Good, because now it’s time to give her a second one. In case you are dating an adrenaline junkie, you can also go bungee jumping with her. Again, make sure that she is not afraid of it, before you push her down the cliff.
26. Feed the Ducks, Birds and Dogs
Does she love animals? Did she dream about becoming a veterinarian when she was a child?
Then show her that you care about animals. Make the suggestion to feed the ducks, birds, or in case you are dating a girl in Bangkok, the dogs. Do it, even if you rather want to eat the ducks than feeding them.
If she really loves animals she’ll fantasize about being in a relationship with an animal lover like you.
27. Ice Cream or I Scream
When you think about going to an ice cream parlor, you probably imagine two teenagers on their very first date. They order the ice cream and licking on each other’s balls (I mean the ice cream) feels like the first kiss.
Well, in case you are under 18 the ice cream parlor is definitely a great place to go, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t go there when you are over 50.
No matter how old you are, licking on each other’s balls in an ice cream parlor is always romantic.
28. Fly a Kite
The more playful a date is, the higher your chances to make her laugh, to connect with her and to make her feel alive. Remember, women are emotional beings and when you can provide them with positive emotions, they will link those feelings to you.
One way of doing this is by reminding her of her childhood. Flying a kite is something that everyone loved to do when they were young. Now you just have to hope that she had a happy childhood and that the wind doesn’t blow her and the kite away.
29. Check out HER Club
One thing that I always ask a girl before I go on a date with her is what kind of music she likes. Her taste in music doesn’t just reveal a lot about her personality, it also gives me the information I need to choose the perfect venue for our first date.
If you plan to meet a girl who is into Jazz, go to a Jazz bar. If you are into a girl who loves rock, you can go to a rock bar. And if you are into a girl who idolizes Lil Wayne, you can ask her if she wants to lick your lollipop.
30. Go to the Spa
A day at the spa is always good, but it’s even better when you go there with a girl you want to end up in a relationship with. The atmosphere is relaxing and the fact that you are basically naked makes it exciting and interesting.
Looking each other into the eyes while you are getting a relaxing massage can be responsible for a lot of endorphins that are rushing through her body.
31. Feed the Homeless People
I have actually heard that it is illegal in some parts of the USA to feed homeless people. I personally think that this is sick and disgusting. In case you don’t live in those parts of the USA you can actually show your girl what an awesome guy you are by helping people in need.
I once dated a girl who told me that she taught children in Africa and that this experience motivated her to donate a lot of money to charity. I was blown away by her dedication. When I suggested feeding the homeless people instead of going on a classical date she had tears in her eyes.
32. Race Go-Karts
Racing go-karts is one of the first date ideas that are highly effective, but also a bit dangerous.
It is effective because it gives her an adrenaline rush that will most likely result in a hug and a passionate kiss for the winner. It is a bit risky, because you have to be careful to not ram her too hard.
You want her to get out of that thing with the intention to kiss you, not with the intention to kill you.
33. Play Tennis/Basketball/etc.
No matter if you are into tennis, basketball, football or any other sport, you can play it with her.
It’s a great way to let her participate in the things you like and to get physical by showing her how you play the game. Once you are totally sweaty and you went for the kiss, you can both hop under the shower.
34. Bar Hopping for Beginners
What if you are dating an alcoholic?
Well, you can try to win a binge drinking contest against her and end up in the intensive care unit, or you can go bar hopping with her. Even though you might not love the idea of spending the rest of the night on the toilet, she’ll love the idea of drinking at least two beers in every bar you go to.
Okay, I am just kidding. Bar hopping is a great first date idea, even if she is not an alcoholic.
35. Go to the Forest
The forest is a great dating venue. It’s adventurous, you are alone and you can have a lot of fun playing hide and seek. When you finally find her you can hug her, press her against a tree and kiss her.
In this moment she’ll feel like the main character in her own Twilight movie. She will kiss you with passion.
36. Go Camping
Camping can be a bit too much for the first date, but if she is adventurous and if she trusts you, it can result in an unforgettable night.
Just imagine lying next to a beautiful woman in a tent that is so small that she is forced to rub her body against yours. It’s getting a bit cold and she snuggles up to you. It doesn’t take long until the cuddling turns into kissing and the kissing turns into…
37. Walk a Dog
I am a dog lover and I once went on a date with a girl who also loved dogs, but who couldn’t have one because she was extremely busy with her work.
Even though I wanted to go to an ice cream parlor with her, I changed my plan and went to an animal shelter. We then walked with two dogs, fooled around and ended up in the grass.
38. Restaurant Hopping
Bar hopping can get boring pretty fast, at least when you both had over ten beers and are both completely wasted. Restaurant hopping is a fun alternative.
The goal of this game is to have a three course meal in as many restaurants as possible. You can order your drink in one restaurant, order the appetizer in another one and so on. It will be fun for you and a pain in the ass for the waiters and waitresses.
39. Go to a Street Fair
Street fairs are perfect for a first date, because…
- You have food
- You have drinks
- You have music
- You are surrounded by people who are in a good mood
Enjoy your time and hold her hand while you are walking from one stand to the other.
40. Kiss Her in a Drive In Theater
One of the best first date ideas that even your grandfather knows about is the drive in theater.
You have probably seen it in countless movies. The innocent girl agrees to go to a drive in cinema with the bad boy in town and after about ten minutes she is making out with him on the backseat of his car.
You can experience this movie scene for yourself. Ask her if she would like to go to a drive in cinema with you and if she says “yes”, you can confidently assume that she already fantasizes about making out with you on the backseat of your car.
41. Go to the Swingers Club
Now we come to one of the dating venues that might shock you.
“You can’t go to a swingers club on the first date. That’s impossible!”
Nothing is impossible and you can actually do that. However, only under certain circumstances:
- She is extremely sexually open
- She has done it before
- You are 100% sure that she wants to have sex with you
I once met a girl on one of those dating sites where people are looking for casual sex. We were talking about things we have never done but wanted to do. I told her that I would love to go to a swingers club. She told me that she has done that before. That’s how it all started.
42. The Tourist Experience
Whenever someone tells you to go on a tourist experience date he or she usually means that you should pretend to be tourists in your own city. Sorry, but I think that running around like retards and filming your own neighborhood is just plain stupid.
It’s way better to have a real tourist experience and to take her to a city that you both have never been to. Now you don’t have to pretend that you are tourists, you are tourists. Enjoy the time and don’t forget the make out selfies.
43. Watch Your Ancestors in the Zoo
She loved going to the zoo when she was a child, so why shouldn’t she love it when you take her there?
Feeding animals, looking at monkeys that are not that different than you and cuddling while you watch how a rhinoceros takes a huge dump can be everything you need to have a fun day and an unforgettable memory.
44. Travel Together
I already told you about my way of making the tourist experience a bit more interesting. Now we take the tourist experience to the next level.
In case you are dating a really adventurous and spontaneous girl, you can travel with her to wherever you want. Once you enter your room at the hostel she is excited, a bit confused and she probably wants to take a shower…with you.
45. An Adventurous Road Trip
Speaking of having a sexual adventure on the road…
Taking her on an adventurous road trip can be the best first date idea you ever had. Heck, you could even rent a party bus to Temecula. Again, if she is adventurous, spontaneous and if she is in YOLO mode, a road trip is absolutely perfect.
And yes, you will end up having sex in the car.
46. Visit a Crazy Psychic
Another fun thing you can do is to visit a psyche. Let her tell you about your future and about all the beautiful and healthy children you will have.
After you have listened to this nonsense you should continue to talk about how you imagine your future. Let her know that every day has the power to change her future and that a good memory can lead to a prosperous future.
47. Work Out Together
If you are into sporty girls you can take them to an environment that they feel comfortable in. Take them to the gym, lift some weights and start a fitness contest.
Working out with a sporty girl in the gym has a lot of benefits. She does something that she loves, she links the positive feelings she has to you and you both need a shower after your workout. Do I really have to say more?
48. Paint Each Other
When I was in school I hated painting. When I discovered my love for women my opinion changed a bit. No matter if you go to a painting class, or if you do it unprofessionally in your living room, painting each other can be funny.
Just paint her naked, show her the picture and tell her that this is what you thought of the whole time. If she likes you it won’t be hard to turn the painting date into a body painting date.
49. Compose Your Own Song
Composing your own song is one of the first date ideas that are totally romantic and very tricky at the same time.
I think I don’t have to tell you why it’s romantic. Every girl dreams about a guy who writes a song for her and the process of writing about each other can lead to a deep connection.
It is tricky because you shouldn’t go total Bruno Mars on the first date. Writing about how beautiful she is will make her smile. Writing about how you would die for her and love her forever is a bit too much.
50. Show Her How to Play Pool
Playing pool is one of those activities that makes touching so damn easy. Show her how she has to move the stick (I know what you are thinking) and how she has to hit the balls (ouch).
Whenever I play pool with a girl I usually start a lightsaber fight with the billiard sticks.
This will make her laugh even more, but it might also be the reason why you get kicked out of the place.
51. Go Rowing
It’s time to do something for your wobbly back!
To be honest, after I went on my very first rowing date, I couldn’t stretch myself for at least three days. Every inch of my body hurt and my back felt like a frozen rock.
Nevertheless, it was a great day and I was able to impress this cute girl with my skills and my endurance. The only thing I couldn’t impress her with were my rowing skills 😉
52. Charter a Boat
Enough about back pain and ambiguous jokes…
There is actually a way to enjoy the deep blue see or at least the small lake outside the city without breaking your back into pieces. The trick is to charter a motor boat.
Of course you should have a boating license, otherwise you will get in trouble and you might accidentally crash the whole thing. In case you have a boating license (come on, everybody has one), this is one of the best first date ideas I can think of.
53. Go to a Singing Class
While it can be fun to spend your evening in a karaoke bar, she might prefer to improve her voice instead of listening to your howling.
Why don’t you book a singing class and make her dreams come true?
If you are dating a girl who loves to sing and who dreams about becoming the next Beyoncé, you would be dumb if you wouldn’t take her to a singing class. She will love you the moment you tell her about your plans.
54. Cook Together at Home
A cooking class can be great, but the problem is that you are never alone. Of course it can be fun to mess up her dish by throwing the flour in her face, but you can’t just put her on the table and pull her pants down when you are in a room with ten other people who want to learn how to cook.
When you cook at home, nobody will stare at you with a shocked face when you make out with her on the table. It is actually very aesthetic to have the imprint of a woman’s ass on your pizza.
55. Go to a Yoga Class
Why do men go to yoga classes?
Why is going to a yoga class one of the best first date ideas you can possibly think of?
Well, you are doing something sensual and physically exhausting that relaxes your body and that increases your mood. Thereby, she wears skin-tight yoga pants and you both need a shower afterwards. That’s all I have to say about yoga.
56. Go to a Meditation Group
Meditation is not as sexually stimulating as a yoga class in which you can stare at ten perfectly shaped asses in skin-tight yoga pants, but it is still a great idea for your very first date.
If she is a spiritual person who doesn’t regard meditation as some hippie voodoo bullshit, one meditation session can be all that is needed to bring you closer together.
You are in the same room, you close your eyes, you feel great while you breathe in and out and the first thing you see when you open your eyes is each other. It’s perfect.
57. Go to a Sporting Event
No matter if you hate sporting events or if you love them, they are perfect for a first date. I am actually not a big fan of sporting events, but I once went with a girl to a basketball match. It wasn’t even a date and until the second half of the game I was just the guy in the friend zone. After the game we made out in her car.
How did this happen?
Well, the game happened.
Whenever our team was on the edge of defeat she jumped on me and squeezed my hand like crazy. The moment we won she was lying in my arms. The moment we arrived at my car her tongue was inside my mouth.
58. Show Her Your Tricks on the Board
Are you a skater boy?
You don’t have to be the next Tony Hawk to have fun with a board. In fact, you don’t even need a halfpipe. You can just take a skateboard and show her how to stand on that goddamn thing.
Of course it is absolutely essential that you hold her when she stands on the board for the very first time. While you do that you can give her a gentle push, so that she falls directly into your arms.
59. Allow Her to Show You Her World
What is her biggest passion? What does she love to do?
Ask her and do whatever it is.
Doing what she wants is not weak. You don’t give up the leadership. You allow her to show you her world. You offer her to take part in her world.
She will appreciate it. Not connecting with her on such a date is nearly impossible.
60. Enjoy a Romantic Picnic
What can you do on a sunny day besides gazing at her ass at a public swimming pool?
You could go on a picnic, eat some fresh fruits and enjoy a few fatty croissants. Oh and don’t forget the artichokes and the avocados. That stuff might not be as delicious as pizza, but it works wonders as a natural aphrodisiac.
When you are full and the sun is shining on your fat bellies, you can take off one piece of clothing after another. There is nothing worse than sweating like a pig after you ate like a king.
61. Go Rollerblading
Rollerblading is one of the best first date ideas, at least when you are into girls with broken bones and missing front teeth.
Don’t worry. You just have to bring a helmet and kneepads and you might survive it without any fractures. You might even survive it with a weird feeling in your belly that comes up whenever you catch her before she falls.
62. Support the Local Theatre
One of my best female friends acts in the local theatre of my tiny home town. She knows how it is to be a struggling actor. Most local theaters are struggling, because more and more people prefer the television and the IPad over real art.
Support your local theatre and enjoy a special performance with a special girl. In case the girl you are dating is artistic and into drama and acting, she will love your for taking her to a place that other guys would never take her to.
63. Have a Bad Taste Party in a Thrift Shop
Some people hate thrift shops, because they can’t afford to buy new clothes. You will love them because visiting them is one of the best first date ideas you can possibly think of.
Even though I have never bought a shirt in a thrift shop (I buy my shirts for $4 in Bangkok), I went to the thrift shop with a girl I was dating. I accidentally stumbled upon this thrift shop while we were on our way to a café.
We spent about two hours trying out the weirdest clothes, until the cashier kindly asked us to buy something or to leave.
64. Play Stupid Old Video Games
Playing video games can be fun, but unless you find a gamer chick who loves to give head shots in Unreal Tournament, you shouldn’t invite her to a session of killing virtual people on your first date.
If you, however, invite her to a fun evening of playing cult games, such as Tekken or Mario Kart, she’ll probably say “yes”. Every girl who is older than 25 knows those games. Playing them allows her to walk down memory lane.
Just ignore this advice when you are dating a girl who is younger than twenty. She’ll probably ask you if this Mario is Justin Bieber’s little brother.
65. Laugh Your Ass off In a Comedy Club
Everybody loves to laugh. Laughing makes happy, laughing makes people forget about next month’s rent that they can’t pay and every woman wants to date a man who can make her laugh.
While it can be quite weird when you crack one joke after another while she tries to have a serious conversation about your future, children and household insurances, it can be a great idea to let someone else crack the jokes.
Enjoy laughing your ass off in a comedy club and hope that she hasn’t been in one of Bill Cosby’s private shows before.
66. Make a Home Cinema Night
Going to a comedy club can be fun, but watching Dumb and Dumber at home can be fun too. Heck, some people think that watching Hostel and Saw 1-100 is fun.
No matter what kind of movies you and the girl who is sitting next to you on the couch are into, watching them together can bring you closer together. You can lie in each other’s arms because you are laughing so much and you can lie in each other’s arms because you are both scared as fuck.
It all depends on the movie you choose.
67. Go Fishing
Who wants to go fishing?
No, fishing is not something that only old guys with grey beards enjoy. When you don’t hit her with your fishing pole it can be a fun and adventurous experience. As long as she isn’t scared of water, worms and welses, you are good to go.
Once the lake is clean and there are no deadly piranhas left, you can enjoy each other’s body heat during a naked swimming session.
68. Get Naughty at a Sex Shop
How to transition from stinky fish to sexual fantasies?
By talking about sex shops and all the crazy things you can buy there. Yep, just like a swingers club, a sex show can actually be a perfect dating venue.
Of course I wouldn’t ask her directly if she wants to meet you at the sex shop. That would be incredibly creepy. You can simply ask her if she has ever been in one of those “weird” and “freaky” shops when you walk past one.
When she says “no!” while she smiles and giggles, you should take her hand and explore the new environment with her. When she is surrounded by dildos and handcuffs for more than ten minutes, she’ll automatically fantasize about sex.
69. Go Snorkeling
Let’s go back to the water and back to the piranhas.
Snorkeling (for the sissies) and diving (for the bas ass motherfuckers) are both two of the best first date ideas.
It’s adventurous, you get a lot of new impressions and you can tell her horror stories about sharks that nibble at her feet, which might motivate her to stay close to you…very close.
70. Pretend to Be College Kids
Are you still in High school?
Take the girl of your wet teenage dreams on campus.
Have you been to college before the Vietnam War?
Make her feel young again by taking her on campus.
Are you in college right now?
Read this article and take her directly to your room.
71. Play Frisbee in the Park
Every dog owner knows that playing Frisbee makes a dog happy. Every experienced seducer knows that a Frisbee can also make a girl happy. Seriously, playing Frisbee is one of the simplest and most fun ways to spend your time in a park.
You move a lot, you run a lot, you laugh a lot and you are hopefully smart enough to fall a lot, so that she has the chance to come and rescue you with a kiss.
72. Play “If I Were You, I Would…”
“If I Were You” is one of the funniest dating games I can think of. All you have to do is to walk down the street and to give each other challenges. Whenever someone doesn’t do what he is told to do, he or she has to be punished. Don’t even think about punishing her with anything else than a passionate kiss.
Here are two examples:
“If I were you, I would run up to that old woman and tell her that her hat is on fire.”
“If I were you, I would moan really loud right now.”
There are millions of things you can do and at one point or another she will refuse to do what you tell her to do. That’s the moment for your first kiss.
73. Got to a Meetup
Do you know the website meetup.com?
It’s incredible. It’s the number one site that I recommend to every aspiring Global Seducer who is scared that a world travel tour of debauchery leads to loneliness. One of the reasons why I have so many friends (and sexual partners) all over the planet is because I went to countless meetups.
However, meeting cool wingmen and horny local girls who want to improve their English because they are interested in “the culture” is not the only thing that meetups are good for. You can, in fact, turn a meetup into a fun date.
Have fun on a dancing meetup. Go crazy on a party meetup and get to know each other on a personal development meetup. The possibilities are endless.
74. Go Paintballing (Only For the Hard Knocks)
Paintball might not be the most romantic sport in the world, but it can be a fun thing to do on the first date. In case you and your friends are paintball fans, you can ask her if she wants to join you. Most girls say “no”, some of them say “yes”. You’ll never know unless you ask.
If she is into military stuff and has been raised by three bigger brothers she might be into it. Just make sure that you are on the same team. You want to kiss her after you have defeated the enemy, but you don’t want to be the one who shoots in her private parts.
75. Go Night Swimming
Night swimming is definitely one of the best first date ideas. It’s adventurous, it’s something that she probably hasn’t done before and it’s exciting (even more exciting when you break in a public swimming pool).
Oh, and you don’t even need swimwear. Just tell her that you forgot your bathing trunks and that you have to swim naked. In case she is into you, she will do the same. I think I don’t have to tell you how you can escalate once you are naked in the water.
76. Build Something Together
Building a house would be too early, but building a bird house might be the activity that makes her fall in love with you.
The goal of building something together is not to build an incredibly sophisticated artwork. The goal is to connect on a deeper level by making something together and by enjoying in the process. Just like making a child, you know.
77. Surprise Her with a Photo Shoot
Every girl dreams about being a model, even the ones who try to justify their obesity by making fun of this mentally exhausting job.
As her future boyfriend it is your job to make her dreams come true.
Surprise her with a photo shoot and show her how beautiful she is. Go crazy in front of the camera and pretend to be two models in love. You won’t believe how fast a girl’s clothes fall down when you and the photographer give her the feeling that she is the sexy model she always wanted to be.
78. Sharing Intimate Experiences with Each Other
Having one deep conversation can be enough to make her fall for you.
No, you shouldn’t waste your time with irrelevant small talk. That’s something that all the other men who don’t know about this site can do.
I am talking about having a really deep conversation in which you reveal more about yourself, your fears, your aspirations and your insecurities than ever before. Such a conversation can be everything she needs to feel an incredibly strong connection with you.
79. Go Ice Skating and Fall Down
Do you know what women think about when you mention ice skating?
They think about holding hands while flying on the ice like prince and princess.
Do you know what I think about when someone mentions ice skating?
I think about one of the best dating ideas out there that provides you with more opportunities to touch her than any other activity. She falls and you catch her. You hold her in your arms and give her warmth. You fall down, break your leg, scream like a baby and she is there to comfort you.
Again, the possibilities are endless.
80. Chocolate Fondue Night
Even though I absolutely love cheese fondue, chocolate fondue is the better alternative when you have a woman at home, at least when she is not from Switzerland.
Women absolutely love sweet stuff and chocolate fondue is not only delicious, it also offers a lot of opportunities to joke around and to shower each other in chocolate sauce that you later have to lick away.
81. Carriage Riding
Who rides in a carriage?
Princesses ride in a carriage. Queens ride in a carriage Annoying tourists ride in a carriage.
Well, when you invite her on a carriage ride she (hopefully) imagines being a queen or a princess. Once she is in the carriage with you, you are her prince charming. Make her feel special and show her that she is worth the two undernourished horses.
82. Write a Letter to Your Younger Selves
I love writing (duh!), but what I love even more is writing about deep stuff with a girl, especially when she can’t wait to kiss me as soon as she finishes her first sentence.
I once went on a date with a girl who dreamed about becoming a writer. For some reason I came up with the idea to write a letter to our younger selves and to read it out loud. It was one of the best ideas I ever had.
Everyone who ever wrote such a letter knows that the first things that come to your mind are the regrets you have and the chances that you didn’t take.
Thinking about all the chances she didn’t take and all the adventures she didn’t experience will eventually motivate her to turn this day into an unforgettable memory.
83. Look at the Stars
Looking at the stars can be really romantic (as if you would care about romance) and offers you the perfect environment for a soft kiss in the moonlight and a heavy petting on a hill (that’s what you really want).
Seriously though, lying next to a beautiful girl and looking at the stars can be a very intimate experience that brings you closer together…physically and emotionally.
84. Trampoline Jumping
Enough about romantic star gazing and fingering in the moonlight…
It’s time to get active again. It’s time to jump next to each other and on each other. Yep, jumping trampoline is not only something that kids enjoy. It’s something that can bring adults closer together (thanks to the force of gravity).
When you are lying on each other and laughing like children it is fairly easy to go for the kiss.
85. Hot-Air Balloon Ride
Unless she is afraid of heights, a hot-air balloon ride can be the best first date she has ever been on. I bet none of her ex-boyfriends and past sexual partners who “didn’t count” took her on a hot-air balloon ride.
The only downside is that those flights can be very expensive. Therefore, you should only invest the money when you can imagine more than just a one night stand with her.
86. The Social Media Date (For Narcissists)
One of the biggest problems of our society and especially of my generation is that most of us are self-centered narcissistic egomaniacs. But hey, at least you can use this sad and disturbing fact to your benefits.
In case you are one of those guys who upload countless Instagram pictures with a stacks of cash, or worse, a duckface (I hope you don’t), a social mediate date is perfect for you. And in case the girl you are dating is one of those chicks who upload pictures of their ass from every angle, you’ll have even more fun.
All you have to do is to make thousands of selfies during your date and upload them on social media. I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror if I would ever do that, but I have heard that some weird members of the generation Y actually enjoy that.
87. Go Hiking
What if you are sensitive to cold and not a narcissistic egomaniac?
Well, then hiking might be more fun for you than ice skating or a social media date.
You don’t have to show the girl you are with how awesome you are by starting a competition about who runs faster. The goal of this first date idea is not to beat her or to show her how big your lungs and how strong your calves are.
The goal is to go on an adventure together. The goal is to connect, to have a great time and to kiss her while you are looking over the valley.
88. Visit an Art Gallery
In case you are dating an artistic girl who has pictures of Salvador Dali in her room instead of Miley Cyrus posters, visiting an art gallery is one of the best first date ideas. I mean, you don’t have to worry about competition. The room will be full of gay men.
She is happy because she can look at all the amazing pictures and artworks of famous and not so famous artists.
You are happy because you can look at her beautiful ass while she bends forward to take a closer look at the wide range of colors that picture number five offers. It’s a win-win situation.
89. Climb that Freaking Rock
Are you ready for an adventure? Are you ready to share an incredible feeling of success? Are you ready for breathlessness and a broken kneecap?
Then you should go rock climbing with the girl who you want to climb in bed with.
No, you don’t have to climb the Mount Everest and you don’t have to lose half your toes. It doesn’t matter if you choose the biggest or the smallest mountain. The only thing that matters is that you cheer when you reach the top, that you take her in your arms and that you kiss her like she has never been kissed before.
90. Make Out as Long as You Can
When I think back to one of my first dates after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, I remember a make out session that was longer than some of the relationships I had during the last couple of years.
All we did was kissing, biting, licking and more kissing. I invited her to my place and even though she was reluctant to sleep with me (I was probably just too stupid to escalate), she showed signs of attraction from the moment she entered my apartment.
Even though we didn’t have sex that I night I still remember it as an incredibly beautiful experience. She is still one of my closest friends.
91. Show Her Where You Grew Up
What are the perfect ingredients for a deep connection?
You take one spoon of “memories”, one spoon of “openness” and one spoon of “realness”. Now you have the perfect connection cake.
By showing her the house you lived in and the neighborhood you grew up in, you reveal who you are and where you came from. You share something extremely personal with her.
While you hold her hand in front of the first school you went to, she might imagine how your children go to the same school.
92. Buy Gifts for Each Other
It might sound weird, but walking through a shopping center and searching for the perfect gift for each other can lead to an unforgettable day. She will feel like your girlfriend who is looking for the perfect gift for her beloved boyfriend.
This first date idea is not about buying her a new plasma TV. Leave that to the desperate guys who don’t read this website.
The goal is to give her the feeling that you are already together and to find out more about how she sees you by taking a closer look at what she buys for you.
93. Dine in the Dark
I already told you that taking her to an expensive restaurant is one of the stupidest things you can possibly do. That being said, taking her to a dinner in the dark can be one of the most exciting things she has ever done.
I once took a girl to a restaurant in Berlin in which every guest dined in the dark. We laughed, joked around and at the end of the evening we had more food in our face than in our stomachs. We were happy but the waiter was anything but amused.
94. Go Crazy on the Playground
Whoever thinks that a playground is just for children should stop growing up.
A playground can be the perfect place for your first date.
You can have fun on the seesaw and you can touch her hips when you give her a push on the swing. Later you can fool around in the sand.
95. Go to an Arcade
Are you about to go on a date with a playful gamer girl?
Then go to the arcade, play until your fingers hurt and make sure that she has the time of her life while she wins every game. If she is a dedicated gamer girl she’ll be pissed whenever she loses. Let her win, make her happy and kiss her after she kicked your ass the third time.
96. Sharing Your Hopes, Dreams and Goals
One of the best things you can do on the first date is to share something personal about yourself. Dwelling in the past by taking her to where you grew up is one way to do that, focusing on the future is another.
Everybody has hopes, dreams and goals. You have them and the girl you are dating has them. Sharing them with her will motivate her to do the same. A conversation about hopes, dreams and goals has the potential to release such intense feelings, that a night full of passion is inevitable.
97. The Hot Tub Experience
I never thought about the fact that sex in a hot tub is one of the best first date ideas until one of my friends shared his kinky and bubbling experience with me.
He was sick and tired of boring dates that led to nothing, so he decided to invite the next girl to a thermal bath. They joked around in the water like every other couple and after a while in the swimming pool, they went to in the hot tub.
The hot water and the romantic atmosphere were enough to make her lose her inhibitions. After he had told me this story I promised myself to not visit any thermal bath in a 60 miles radius of his home. The thought of swimming in his semen scares the shit out of me.
98. Climb on a Tree and Feel Free
Deep down we all want to have fun, smile, laugh and be happy like a child. You can give her this feeling by allowing her to live out her inner child and by helping her to remember the days when she was a child without worries, problems and menstruation cramps.
One way to do that is by going to a park, looking for a high tree and by climbing that thing. The moment you are sitting on a branch (that is thick enough) you can hold her hand and look her into the eyes. She’ll either bend forward to kiss you, or she’ll puke because she has acrophobia.
99. Have a Skype Date
Everyone who has ever been in a long-distance relationship knows the power of skype. Everyone who has ever met a girl online who lived more than 100 miles away should have heard about The Skype Date.
Come on, skype dates are awesome. Ask this guy:
In case the girl you are about to go on a date with lives two blocks away from you, you can ignore this advice. If you, however, have your first date with a girl who lives in another county or country, the skype date is the perfect first date idea for you.
Turn on your laptop, go online and talk about all the things that you usually talk about in a café or in overpriced restaurants.
Just make sure that you don’t spend too many dates in the virtual world. I don’t want you to end up like these desperate Japanese dudes who marry their virtual girlfriends.
100. Play Truth or Dare
Truth or dare is an amazing game. I can’t even remember how many of my classmates had their first kiss while playing truth or dare while I was spending every weekend at home crying and masturbating. It fills my heart with joy whenever I think back to my miserable teenage years.
Even though I never got invited to play truth or dare when I was a teenager, I played it more and more often in my early twenties. Once I discovered the power of this game, revealing women’s secret fantasies and doing the wildest things with them became so easy. It’s all just a part of the game.
101. Do Some Voluntary Work
Do you want to date a girl with a big heart?
Then find out if she has one by doing some voluntary work with her
No matter if you invite her to help in a soup kitchen or if you take care of poor animals, the time you spend with her will show you quite frankly if she is the kind of girl you can imagine a relationship with or not.
How would you feel if you knew that she wants to be your girlfriend?
Read chapter 5 and you’ll know the answer…
Summed Up Wisdom
Now I shared over 100 best first date ideas with you.
In case you decide to take the next girl you are dating to an expensive restaurant, to pay for her lobster and to then write me an email in which you complain that all women are gold diggers, I will kill you.
I am pretty sure that you can pick at least one other date idea from my list.
The table of contents at the beginning gives you an overview of all the best first date ideas I shared with you in this article.
Have fun scrolling up that freaking long page 😉
Sebastian Harris says
No worries, the article is quite long 😉
You sure did. Sorry about that; I completely missed it.
Sebastian Harris says
Good idea. I covered that one 😉
How about shooting pool?