Have you ever asked yourself why women cheat?
In case you are currently in a monogamous relationship, I assume that the last thing you want is that your girlfriend cheats on you or even worse, that you give her a reason to do so. Maybe you are already one step further and you have just ended a relationship in which you not only thought that something about the behaviour of your girlfriend is suspicious, but you actually found out that she had sex with other men behind your back.
Now that you know that your girlfriend was anything but faithful, you probably ask yourself why she did what she did.
the purpose of this article is to provide you with an answer. I don’t say that you will like the answer, but I am confident that it will help you to understand the situation you are in and to reflect upon your behaviour.
Before you hate me for telling you to think about the things you did, even though you are obviously the one who got hurt, I want to make one thing very clear. It is not your fault that your gilfriend decided to hop in bed with another man, at least not entirely. It’s not that you forced her to unzip the pants of another man.
What she did is wrong and blaming you for it doesn’t make it right.
I don’t want to blame you. All I want is to provide you with are reasons that might have played a part in her behaviour.
Some of the reasons I list will offend you but, all of them are worth thinking about. Yes, thinking about these reasons might hurt, but it is a necessary process that will help you to not make the same mistakes with the next girl you are dating.
Are you ready for the shocking truth that provides you with the answer to why women cheat?
In case you feel too offended by the following advice you can of course ignore it. However, then you don’t have to wonder why your firstborn son has the same hair color as your neighbour.
1. Monogamy is a Myth
In my opinion human beings are not monogamous and I am more than happy that other people, mainly scientists and researchers, have the same opinion as I have.
There is even a very interesting TED talk in which the speaker claims that our ancestors were nothing else than whores who fucked every member of their tribe and who had sex with whomever and whenever they wanted:
Before some moron thought that it would be a brilliant idea to invent a thing called marriage and made it a rule to stay monogamous in this marriage till the day you die, nobody thought about monogamy.
It is not in our nature to be monogamous.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible.
Otherwise, we wouldn’t feel the urge and the desire to have sex with other people when we are in a relationship, even though we constantly try to supress this urge. I mean, when you have a look at most marriages you will quickly realize that porn, prostitutes and the postman are the only reasons why they don’t end in a divorce.
Even if the society we are living in loves to illustrate women as sweet little angels who just can’t find a faithful man, this couldn’t be more far from the truth. A quick reality check reveals that women cheat more often than men.
This means that women have the urge and the desire to live a non-monogamous life. The biological predisposition of human beings can be one reason why women cheat. Sometimes it makes me think if it is even possible to find a girl who would never cheat…
2. Why Women Cheat When They are Bored
Now we come to the first reason that might offend you. But don’t worry, I will later throw a couple more reasons at you that are directly related to the way you treat her.
One popular reason why women cheat is the fact that they are bored out of their minds. I don’t say that you are a boring person, but if your girlfriend had sex with another guy while you were still in a relationship with her, she might did it because she was bored.
In case you currently have a girlfriend and the only thing you did in the bedroom for the last two years is the missionary position while she still wears her bra, you don’t deserve to call yourself an adventurous lover. In case the last time you took her to a nice restaurant was two weeks after you met, your behaviour might be the reason for her to bang some other dude.
If you, however, take her on exciting dates, practice the Kama Sutra with her and seduce her whenever you can, you should take a closer look at the personality of the woman who cheated on you.
There are women who need constant excitement, attention and stimulation. One guy could never fulfil this need, which leads to them being bored when they are in a relationship. These are the type of girls who stare at their phone and mumble “boooring” as soon as they are at a place where there are no bright lights, drugs, loud music or other external stimuli.
In case you are in a relationship with such a girl, the best tip I can give you is to run away before she cheats on you. The decision to end up in a relationship with a woman who can’t survive without an excessive amount of attention is a risk that you shouldn’t take.
3. Women Cheat When They are Lonely
I couldn’t decide if I name this subheading “women cheat when they are lonely” or “women cheat when they think they are lonely”.
A woman can have real reasons for being lonely and she can have a psychological disorder that causes her to think she is lonely. If you end up in a relationship with a girl who feels lonely, even though you take care of her 24 hours a day, you should run as fast as you can.
However, even a psychologically healthy woman can have the feeling that she is lonely.
This feeling can easily motivate her to spread her legs for another man. Men and women are longing for affection, tenderness and quality time with a loving partner. The moment you deny those important aspects of a relationship, you give her a reason to be unfaithful.
Every woman needs compliments, love, affection, a passionate kiss, and a man who gives her the feeling that she is loved. Women crave for these emotions and when they don’t get them from their partner, they look for them outside of the relationship. In case you don’t give her those feelings, you shouldn’t be surprised when she confesses that she had sex with another man.
4. Sexual Frustration is a Reason Why Women Cheat
Another popular aspect that motivates women to jump in bed with other men while their nice boyfriend waits for them at home is their sexual frustration. In case you know how to give your girlfriend incredible orgasms on a regular basis that make her scream until the neighbours complain, you can confidently skip this part.
I know that it hurts to think about whether or not you are able to satisfy your girlfriend in the bedroom, but being completely honest about your sexual skills is the first step to a change .
5. She Dies for Attention
Some girls need so much attention that they see a lack of attention as a reason to cheat. I call these girls “products of our society”.
In a day and age in which it is normal for a girl to post more than ten selfies a day on Facebook, to spend more time on Twitter than with her boyfriend and to get depressed when nobody likes, shares, retweets or comments on their pictures, it is normal for girls to get attention 24/7.
These girls are nothing else than insecure children who seek their drug at any price.
You better not break the supply of attention, or the girl you are together with might meet a guy on her next night out who gives her the attention she craves for. Of course it is advisable to not seduce and/or date such a chick in the first place, but in case you already made this mistake and you are convinced that you love her, I regard it as my duty to warn you.
You can expect at least a few sleepless nights of worrying. Oh, and you probably have to play the dancing monkey to keep her from cheating on you.
Sounds like fun, huh?
6. She Has a Cheating Fetish
I already confronted you with the fact that a girl might be unfaithful because she is sexually frustrated. However, there is also another reason why girls cheat that is closely related to her sexuality. This time it has nothing to do with her level of frustration, but her sexual preferences.
You might be the best lover she ever had. You might be able to give her three shivering orgasms in a row, but she still wants to have sex with other men.
Some women have rape fantasies, others have a fetish for cheating. In case you are not a big fan of sharing your wife with other guys, or cuckolding, how it is called in the porn scene, this fetish can cause tension in a relationship.
When you have a girlfriend who has this fetish and who has a desire she just can’t and maybe doesn’t want to control, there is not much you can do. She can try to impress this desire as much as she want, at some point it wants to break free.
Nevertheless, I believe that it is still possible to be in a happy relationship with such a woman, at least when she is prepared to work on herself and to tamp down on her fetish. However, it looks a bit different if she suffers from the condition that I am going to talk about in the next paragraphs…
7. She is Addicted to Cheating
The cheating fetish I just described will become a problem in a relationship but it is far worse when your girlfriend is addicted to cheating. When she only has a fetish she can at least try to control it and to refrain from living out her sexual desires. If she suffers from an addiction, she can’t control it and she will definitely cheat on you.
I found quite a few posts in various forums in which women (and men) claim that they are addicted to cheating on their partners, even if they are in love with them and even if they know on a logical level that they destroy not only their relationship but also their life by doing it.
Even if there is the possibility for those women to go to a therapy, it is very likely that she will relapse. It is the same as with every other addiction.
One reason why women cheat is definitely because they have an addiction that forces them to do so. If I were you I would try to avoid a girl who has this addiction.
The attempt to save her might destroy you.
8. Revenge as a Reason Why Women Cheat
Another reason why women cheat is to take revenge. This normally happens when you cheated on your girlfriend first and she wants to do the same to hurt you in the same way you hurt her. I think it is needless to say that such a behaviour is anything but healthy and that you can’t speak of a relationship anymore, if a woman cheats on you because she wants to take revenge.
The whole thing becomes a lot more complicated when she wants to take revenge for something that she believes you did, but you actually never did.
A woman might think you cheated and the pain she feels leads to a kneejerk reaction that she will regret later.
In some cases the revenge isn’t related to prior cheating at all. Some women want to take revenge because of the stupidest things. Maybe you ignored her, maybe you didn’t listen to her, or maybe you did something else that hurt her feelings.
Revenge can be one of the most malicious reasons why women cheat.
9. A Reason to End the Relationship
Imagine you are a woman and you are caught in an unhappy relationship with no love and a miserable sex life. You are not sure if you want to leave the man you spent the last four years with, or if you should continue to fight. You got used to him over the time and you don’t really have a reason to leave him because he is such a nice guy and he has never treated you badly.
Wouldn’t it be a lot easier if you would give him and yourself a reason to end the relationship you want to get out of?
One reason why women cheat is because they want to end the relationship. They are just looking for a reason to end it. I know it sounds crazy when you think of being unfaithful in order to leave somebody, when a clarifying conversation would be all that is needed. Nevertheless, some women prefer having sex with another man, which includes a lot of drama and tears, over a few simple words. I don’t say that it is a nice way to end a relationship, but I simply can’t doubt that this way exists.
Women do this because they desperately search for a way to sabotage their relationship.
Being unfaithful allows them to justify a decision that they’ve already made a long time ago. More often than not they regret this decision and wish they would have never done it. Then it is often too late.
P.S No woman will ever cheat on a man who rises like a Phoenix from the ashes…
Summed Up Wisdom
Now you know that the fact that human beings are not monogamous, boredom, loneliness, sexual frustration, a desperate need for attention, a sexual fetish, an addiction to cheating, revenge and searching for a reason to end a relationship can be reasons why women cheat.
I hope you work on yourself to not give her the reasons to cheat on you. I also hope you know what types of women you should attract into your life, so that you will never have problems with a girl who is cheating on you.