Some guys protect their virginity with their life.
No, they don’t need chastity belts or a huge amount of garlic to keep vaginas away from them. All they need are stupid, ridiculous and completely illogical excuses.
Seriously, whereas World of Warcraft protects the male virginity since a couple of years, excuses do the same job since the origin of mankind.
Believe it or not but whatever you tell yourself will come true, at least to a certain extent. That’s the root of (nearly) all your problems.
“He who says he can’t and he who says he can are both right.”
That’s true for anything in life. Your dating life is not an exception. If you believe that you can’t get laid, you won’t get laid. It is really that simple.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who talk themselves into believing that they can’t do the only thing that Mother Nature gave them a penis for. This makes me not only sad, but it also makes me angry, especially when I look back at the times when I was very unsuccessful with women.
During my teenage years I believed that no girl likes me, that I am an ugly motherfucker and that I don’t deserve beautiful women.
In case you have read a little bit about me, you know that I had acne all over my face, a huge scar from a heart surgery (which I still have) and that I looked even younger than Justin Bieber when he was twelve.
If I would have believed that a pimply guy with scares all over his body who looks at least five years younger than he actually is could have sex with models and end up in incredibly fulfilling relationships that combine love and sexual freedom, my life would have been very different.
Excuses, excuses, nothing bot excuses!
They 16 Excuses You Make to Protect Your Virginity
I wouldn’t have cried myself to sleep at night during my teenage years. I wouldn’t have stayed a virgin until I was 18. I wouldn’t have ended up in a four year relationship with the first woman I had sex with.
I did all of this because I had the wrong beliefs. Those beliefs were nothing but excuses. I made excuses that allowed me to not take responsibility for my life. I made excuses in which I blamed women, my situation, my looks and thousands of other external circumstances for the misery I was in.
Why did I do that? It was easy…
Making excuses allows you to not do anything about your situation, without feeling like a complete loser.
Does this behavior lead to happiness? Fuck no!
At one point you will realize that all of the excuses you make are nothing but ways of sabotaging yourself. You sabotage your own success, because you want to protect yourself from failure, which ultimately leads to real failure.
Today it is time to end this downward spiral.
There are a lot of excuses guys make to protect themselves from getting into contact with women No matter if you are a virgin, if you are a notorious porn addict who hadn’t had sex in years or if you are simply a guy who wants to improve his life but who doesn’t unlock his potential because of self-sabotaging patterns:
Stop making the following excuses, start taking responsibility for your (dating) life and become the successful Global Seducer who you truly want to be.
1. Beautiful Women Want Rich Guys
Let’s start with one of the most popular excuses guys make when they see a smoking hot woman. I don’t know where this belief comes from and I am sure that this 50 Shades of Grey shit doesn’t help to get rid of it, but a lot of guys think that beautiful girls are only attracted to rich guys.
Whenever I ask some guys if they have ever dated a model there is at least one guy in the group who says “I am not a millionaire”. If they would only know that most models are sick and tired of the guys who try to buy them and that most of them crave for a self-confident and authentic man with a big heart instead of a big wallet, their life would look different.
We have to thank them. More models for you and me.
Stop telling yourself that you are not rich enough when you actually know deep down that your dick, your heart and your balls are way more important than your wallet.
2. She is Out of My League
“She is out of my league!”
I know that I am not the first guy who says that and I am hopefully not the last one:
Leagues don’t exist!
If I could go back in time and find the first guy who came up with this whole leagues thing I would punch him in the face and tell him that I am going to kill his great-grandchildren if he ever comes up with his theory. Do yourself a favor and stop telling yourself that you are out of anyone’s league when you are not.
It is true that you see more handsome men with hot girlfriends than ugly men with hot girlfriends, but the reason for that is that handsome men believe that they are in her league and the not so handsome men don’t even approach the hot girls, because they think they are out of their league.
My friend, it is a vicious cycle that you are in. Stop using your one pimple and your little scar on your chin as an excuse to stay at home.
I have a scar that is over 15 centimeters long and I also don’t whine about it. Neither does this guy:
3. She Probably Has a Boyfriend
Why is it that all men automatically assume that every girl on this freaking planet has a boyfriend?
If all girls would have boyfriends, why do most big cities have such a high percentage of single women?
Okay, maybe you make this excuse only when you see a hot girl and never when you see an average looking girl. Shall I tell you a secret? The hotter the woman, the more likely it is that she is single. Why? Nearly no guy has the balls to approach her.
If you don’t believe me you can go to a model agency and interview some of the girls about their dating life. You will be amazed when you find out how many incredibly gorgeous women are actually single.
4. She is Not My Type
Do you want to hear one of the most ridiculous excuses guys make?
One of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard from a guy is that a certain girl is not his type, even though she obviously looks like a mixture of Megan Fox and Jennifer Lawrence.
The guy who said that was one of my friends who used this excuse when I asked him why he doesn’t talk to the one girl he obviously stared at for an eternity. He told me with the most fake facial expression I have ever seen that she is not his type.
Whenever you tell yourself that a woman who would give every guy on this planet an instant boner is not your type, you don’t actually believe yourself, do you?
5. She is Already Too Far Away
A popular excuse guys make while they are out to approach women is that she is already too far away and that it is impossible to run after her. You will most likely tell yourself this bullshit once you are at a stage where you approach women on a regular basis, even though you are still afraid to approach the really, really hot ones.
What do you do when a really gorgeous woman walks past you? You stand still and you don’t move until she is far away enough to use one of the stupidest excuses guys make.
6. She is in a Hurry
She is in a hurry. She has to go somewhere. She is busy. Blah blah blah…
Yes, sometimes women are in a hurry, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t have at least two minutes to smile, giggle and to give you their phone number.
Everybody has to go somewhere and we are all very busy people.
What makes you think that her tight schedule is a reason to not approach her? If self-confidence issues are the reason, you should do something about it.
7. I Would Offend Her
Since we have all seen this 10 hours in New York video, which was by the way produced by a man who makes a living with viral videos (just saying), we all know that saying “hi” to a woman is the same as raping her in the middle of the street.
I can somehow understand that the social conditioning of our fucked up society makes you believe that approaching a woman is too offensive.
Even though I understand why you believe it, I won’t understand why you still use this excuse after you have read this article.
It is time to get over this obnoxious social conditioning and to reclaim your balls.
Women are sexual beings who absolutely love it when a guy tells them how beautiful they are. By approaching a woman you don’t offend her, you make her day.
Stop thinking that you are a bad person for having completely natural desires, just because some sexually frustrated feminists want you to believe it.
8. I Rather Focus on My Studies/Career
“You know, I will start with this whole seduction thing when I finished college.”
“I am so busy working right now. I will learn how to get good with girls once I got that promotion.”
“I am 40, I have no girlfriend, no social skills and I don’t even know how to talk to girls. I am completely fucked…”
Do you really want to end like that? I know that we all live busy lives and I also know that there is always something you can do to distract yourself from the fact that you haven’t had sex in months or even years.
I know that, but I still don’t believe you when you tell me that you don’t have at least ten minutes a day to read one of my articles. I also don’t believe you when you say that you don’t have ten minutes a day to approach a woman, to connect with her and to get her number.
Do you know what’s even worse? You don’t even believe yourself.
9. I Don’t Need a Woman in My Life
Why do I spend hours every day writing articles for you that have the purpose to help you to transform your dating life from a never-ending dry spell into a never-ending sexual adventure when I know that you don’t even need women in your life?
Whenever a man who has no girlfriend and no female friend who is willing to spread her legs for him says that he doesn’t need a woman in his life I have to laugh out loud.
Sorry, but not even your mother would believe that.
The only biological program we men have from the day we ejaculate the first time is to hunt, slay and fuck women. Women make us feel alive.
A man who says that he doesn’t need a woman in his life wants to suppress the pain and hopelessness he feels whenever he thinks about the fact that he has no women in his life. Deep down you know that you need women like you need air to breathe.
10. She Gets Hit On All the Time
One of the most common excuses guys make whenever they see an attractive woman is to say that she gets hit on all the time. Why is this excuse so popular? It provides you with a seemingly logical reason why she will definitely reject you. The logical consequence of the misbelief that a certain woman gets hit on all the time is that she will reject everyone, just because she is tired of getting approached.
On the one hand, you don’t have to try to approach her because YOU KNOW that she will reject you anyway and on the other hand, you have an excuse when you try it and she actually rejects you, because she would have done the same with every other man.
If you are really honest to yourself you know that she doesn’t reject every man and that there are some guys who she wants to have sex with.
These guys are called Global Seducers.
11. I Am Just Here to Enjoy a Drink with My Buddies
Let’s have a look at one of the most popular excuses guys make when they are in a club. If you are a guy who knows how to get laid as soon as you enter a club, you already know that it is better to go there with a hot female friend than with your drunk buddies who might unintentionally cock block you.
If you don’t belong to the group of guys who get down and dirty with party girls, you are probably visiting clubs with a bunch of dudes. There is nothing wrong with that. I also enjoy a night out with my friends.
However, don’t say that you are just here to enjoy a drink with your buddies when we are partying together and I point to the smoking hot blond bombshell who sits alone at the bar.
I know that you would approach her if you would have the balls.
Saying that you are not here to flirt doesn’t count. We both know that you would talk to her if you could be 100% sure that she will go home with you.
12. Dating is Too Stressful for Me
“Dating is so stressful. You have to approach women. Then some of them reject you. Then you have to go on dates with them and get to know them before they spread their legs. That’s so tedious. I rather go to a hooker…”
Fair enough. Besides worrying about STD’s, dating is really a lot more stressful than visiting a brothel and paying a few bucks for a fuck. However, you won’t feel the same satisfaction, pride, excitement and success when you pay for this experience.
Another alternative is to not have sex at all. I mean, internet porn is good for you, right? After years of paying for sex, using porn to jerk off and talking yourself into believing that dating is too stressful, you will hopefully realize that you have wasted your sperm and your life.
13. I Don’t Have Time to Get Good with Women
Time is money and I totally understand that you have no time to learn how to seduce women.
I especially understand it, because you have probably enough time to get drunk on the weekend.
I also understand it because you have time to watch TV, to watch brain-numbing YouTube videos and to play video games.
Why don’t you stop wasting your time with activities that are neither beneficial for your personal development nor for your sex life and start investing the time you have into your development as a seducer?
Your dick and your happiness level will both thank you for this healthy change.
14. I Could Have a Girlfriend but I Don’t Want One
“Girlfriends are so annoying, right?”
They always moaning, they are jealous and they waste your time with never-ending arguments. Well, if you have the wrong girlfriend this is actually true.
But do you really think that when you see a happy couple in the park?
What do you really think when you see guys with beautiful girlfriends?
Instead of “thank god that I don’t have such an annoying bitch by my side” you more likely think “I would give everything to date a girl like her.”
The “I could” excuse is one of the most popular excuses guys make. Of course you could, but why don’t you do?
15. Sex is Not So Important to Me
“You are so primitive. The only thing that you care about is sex. Don’t you have anything better to do than chasing girls all the time? Sex is not really that important.”
These are the exact words that a typical white knight in fake armor said to me when I told one of his female friends why I love to travel the world in search of sexual adventures. Of course he only said that sex is not so important to him, because he hoped to have sex with the girl who he tried to impress with his verbal diarrhea. How sneaky.
Saying that sex is not so important is one of the dumbest excuses guys make.
The guys who say shit like that are the same guys who have a history of porn videos in their browser that is longer than the history of mankind.
Stop jerking off to porn movies while you pretend that sex is not so important to you and start to take the necessary action steps that allow you to finally have sex.
16. I Don’t Have the Money to Get Good With Women
What if you simply don’t have the money to seduce women?
As you probably know I spent way over $1000 for a bootcamp and a couple of hundred dollars on books and other dating products. When I started out I also spent a lot of money on clothes, because I thought that looking like a fashion victim helps to get chicks.
At some point I (thankfully) realized that all I needed to attract the most amazing women into my life were the right beliefs, the necessary skills and the knowledge that nearly no other guy has. Even if you don’t have thousands of dollars for coaching and expensive products, you can learn how to get girls.
All you need is the dedication and determination to read my articles, buy my bestselling book and shoot me an email whenever you need support.
Summed Up Wisdom
What excuses are you making?
I am pretty sure you are not rich enough, she is out of your league, she has a boyfriend, she is not your type, she is already too far away, she is in a hurry, she is offended by you, you rather want to work on your career, you don’t need a woman, you want to enjoy the night with your buddies, dating is too stressful for you, you don’t have the time, you don’t want a girlfriend, sex is not so important to you and you don’t have the money to pay for a $3000 bootcamp.
Am I right?
Sebastian Harris says
I know, Germans are not that famous for their skills with the ladies. I take it as a compliment 😉
Zois Gasparinatos says
Sebastian, I never believed I would take lessons on love from a fucking German, but I think you have something there! God bless you.
Sebastian Harris says
As a girl you can give him the best present he ever received. Make the first move, allow him to be shy and awkward and take his virginity. Oh, and please post a follow up comment on how thankful he was 😉
I’m friends with a guy that is a few years younger than me who is a virgin and a llittle awkward with women. I’ve heard quite a few of the things in this article from him in regards as to why he doesn’t approach or date women right now. Even though I’m a little older than him he’s sweet and funny and we are both single (and neither of us are unattractive). I flirt with him and he flirts back, but it’s subtle because I’m not trying to scare him off or ruin the friendship thing we have. I really do sit back in frustration thinking come on man just make a move on me!! I could care less if he’s a virgin. Sex is half instinct and the other half he can always improve on with some fun practice. Seriously frustrating.
Sebastian Harris says
Thank you so much for this comment. I hope that your words will inspire some of my male virgin readers to stop making excuses…
Well, I met a guy who admited to be virgin and I felt horny about it so tried to seduce and with a respectful mode be near to him, but everytime he said stupid excuses like he has better things to do or playing his stupid game, going out with their drunks friend ,everything less than having a date with me, Im not trying to push him,In fact always treat him in a polite way, but damn how difficult is to make him understand: Hey I dont care if you are virgin, come on and lets fuck!!!!
I’m not convinced by many things that you said on this issue, however after thinking about that it’s interesting to notice that the woman i was talking about also said that she wants to become more sexy by being tattooed.
It’s not only a personal theory, often people willing to get tattooed and pierced have a low self esteem.
Also in my life the three girls who said that they were attracted to me (despite the fact that i was a 4 and it’s optimist, and they was at least 7) were extremely confident girls.
It may not be very interesting for you, but that tends to prove your point 😉
Sebastian Harris says
A man who dates a beautiful woman, because he enjoys her company has no self-confidence issues. A guy who dates a trophy woman, just because he wants to brag with her, probably has some self-confdidence issuces. The six pack was just an example. Good looks are definitely an advantage, but not a necessity.
ok, so if a man wants to date a beautiful woman it’s because he has a low self-esteem ?
I don’t think she was referring to a six pack (also having it only require work, not luck), i think she was talking about the face mainly.
Most of the time it’s the only thing that the girl will get to see until she is already in the bed, when it’s too late to escape and that she is handcuffed…(just kidding).
Sebastian Harris says
of course there are some women who would never date an ugly guy. Most of the time those are girls with a low self-esteem who need a hot boyfriend in their life to get validation and because they couldn’t stand the weird looks they would get with a guy who is “out of their league”. However, I know plenty of girls who don’t care so much about whether or not their boyfriend has a six pack. Looks is a factor, but it is highly overrated.
Leagues don’t exist ? this week i asked to a woman what attracts her to a man (yes i know weird question but she isn’t a potential date anyway).
She answered : “like everybody, first the look*, then the personality”…
* i mean the physical appearance, i’m not sure of the word in English