Do you know why women lose respect for men?
For a long time I didn’t know an answer to this question. About two years ago I already overcame my approach anxiety and I was able to talk to every girl, no matter how attractive she was. The only thing I couldn’t do was to get some fun at the end of a long date, or a relationship with a girl who wasn’t a complete psycho.
I was stuck. I was stuck at a stage that a lot of guys never get out.
I had the courage to approach women and I had some basic seduction skills that made me survive the first couple of minutes of an interaction. What I didn’t have was the mental strength, the ability and the necessary skills to motivate girls to drop their panties.
After I went on three dates with three incredibly hot girls in a row who all didn’t answer the phone when I called them the next day, I decided to sit down and to write down all the things that I did wrong. Once I realized that I did nearly everything wrong that I could possibly do wrong, I wanted to cry. When I looked at my list it was obvious that I basically forced women to lose respect for me.
Do you know the wonderful feeling when she respects you less than Lindsay Lohan respects her dad?
What I want to do now is to prevent you from making the same stupid mistakes that I made. That’s why I decided to activate parts of my brain that haven’t been used in a while in order to write down all the reasons why women lose respect for men that I wrote down two years ago. I hope I remember all the details.
Oh, and of course I didn’t cry 😉
13 Reasons Why Women Lose Respect for Men
Let’s have a look at all the reasons why a girl you are dating could lose her respect for you. I think/hope that you are not making all the mistakes that I am sharing with you in the following lines. However, don’t despair if you behave 100% the way you shouldn’t behave.
No one is perfect and making certain mistakes is inevitable when you are embarking on your path. Just don’t make the same mistake twice.
Look at the following 13 tips and internalize them. Then you’ll become a man who is respected by women. Otherwise, your dating life will be pretty shitty, because women will eventually lose their respect for you.
1. You Don’t Make the First Move
Okay, I have to admit that making the first move was actually the only thing that I did right. Even if I fucked up everything else I had the balls to walk up to an attractive woman and to tell her that she looks amazing.
Making the first move is absolutely essential. If you can’t make the first move, you can’t expect her to see a real man when she looks at you. Sorry buddy, but the moment in which a hot girl approaches you and asks you if she can suck your dick only happens in porn movies, but not in real life.
What if you are paralyzed whenever you see a beautiful girl?
What if your approach anxiety is so bad that you can’t make the first move?
Then work on yourself and start to make small changes.
Ask women for the time and for directions until you can go one step further. Become more and more social and eventually you’ll be able to make the first move.
2. You Apologize for Wanting Sex
I get goosebumps when I think back to all the dates I had during which I became apologetic when she suddenly assumed that I am sexually interested in her. I was such a stupid idiot. Back then I was so freaking nice, that I really thought I would offend a woman for wanting sex.
Whenever a girl said to me that “you just want to have sex” or “why do you approach me?” I made some stupid excuses. If I would have said “not just sex, but sex is one of the things I want” and “because I am attracted to you”, I would have had sex with real women instead of countless romantic experiences with my right hand.
Let me tell you a secret: Women love sex and they want to get fucked by men who have what it takes.
One way to find out for a woman if you have what it takes is by testing whether or not you are comfortable with your sexual desires.
3. You Put Her on a Pedestal
One reason why women lose respect for men, that a lot of men tend to ignore, is because they put them on a pedestal. I know, Hollywood has taught you to do it, but what works in movies doesn’t necessarily work in real life.
Putting a woman on a pedestal is the most ridiculous thing you can possibly do. While you think that you are her knight in shining armor who will love her forever, she thinks that you are a needy creep who she clearly doesn’t want to spend the night with.
“Gosh, I am going to kill this pussy!” “I will love you forever!”
A respectful man puts only one person on a pedestal and this person is himself. Every woman understands that. I hope you understand it too.
4. You Act Like a Dancing Monkey
In case you would see me infield (maybe you will one day) you would never believe that I transform the numbers that I get into sex. But I do. The reason why you wouldn’t believe that is because you are brainwashed to believe that you have to act like a dancing monkey to get girls.
The most famous pick up videos on YouTube are the ones where guys spin the girls around, give them high fives and crack jokes every two seconds. I never do that.
Girls give them their numbers as a reward for the entertainment, but they only see those dancing monkeys as good friends.
The guys who get them naked are the ones who are calm and confident and who don’t have to act like a dancing monkey. Those are the guys that get the respect. Nobody wants to fuck with the clown.
5. You Are a Crappy Leader
Seduction is all about leading. From the minute you meet her it is your job to lead her through the seduction process. You take her number, you take her on a date and you take her clothes off. If she takes your number and she takes you on a date she won’t take her clothes off.
One major reason why women lose respect for men is crappy leadership. Being not able or not willing to lead is a sign of weakness and no woman wants to date a weak guy. I am not talking about physical weakness. I am talking about emotional weakness.
Sorry, I have no patience for crappy leaders…
A woman wants to feel safe and secure with the guy she is dating. She wants to have the feeling that he is a guy who is able to lead her through life. Being together with a guy who she has to lead through life is a burden that no woman wants to deal with.
6. You Disrespect Her
As a Global Seducer you are supposed to love women and as a man who loves women you also don’t disrespect them. What if a girl deserves it to be treated with disrespect? Keep your dignity, walk away without violating your values and get a girl who deserves respect.
What if you disrespect a girl who deserves your respect? Then my friend, you have some serious issues that you should work on.
From my own experiences I know that the number one reason why men disrespect a woman is because they can’t get her.
I know how it feels when you see a woman going home with a bad boy after you have entertained her for two hours and bought her more drinks than a Russian woodcutter could possibly drink. I know that it sucks.
However, disrespecting her for the decision to go with the guy who didn’t behave needy and who didn’t try to buy her attention through drinks and free entertainment won’t solve your problem. What really solves your problem is to become a self-confident man who doesn’t pay her shit.
7. You Hide Your Intention
What is the reason why men go on dates with women? Unless you are deluded by some Hollywood romance bullshit the number one reason is sex. Women want sex, men want sex. Everything could be perfect.
The only problem is that you might be one of the guys who hide the fact that they want to have sex, even though the girl you are on a date with is already dripping on the floor. Why do you do that? She could think that you are a pervert, a player, a womanizer, etc…
The truth is that everything you try to hide from her would actually increase your chances to get.
Every girl who you are on a date with knows that you want to fuck her.
Do you know what’s even better?
Nearly every woman who decides to go on a date with wants to have sex with you. Don’t force her to lose her respect for you, just because you act like a castrated dog who just wants to get cuddled.
8. You Have No Vision
I know my vision in life. You can read about it here.
Do you have a vision?
Do you want to achieve a certain goal more than anything else?
Everybody has a vision and deep down everyone knows his vision:
The only problem is that it is buried under layers of social and educational conditioning. In case you have never thought about your vision and purpose in life, it can be meaningful to invest some time in finding it. It can be meaningful for your life in general and for your dating life. Women are drawn towards men who have a vision and who follow their path.
If you become a man with a vision, women will follow you to the end of the world.
What if you don’t want to have a vision and decide to live your life in a meaningless way by working in a job you hate, watching TV all day and waiting until you finally retire? In this case you don’t have to wonder when the girl of your dreams doesn’t regard you as the man of her dreams.
9. You Complain About Life
One reason why women lose respect for men that is closely related to the lack of vision, is when a man complains about his life all day long. I hope you remember that women want leaders and I hope you also understand that men who whine about every little aspect of their life are not considered perfect leaders.
It is hard for a woman to respect you when you are complaining all the time.
It shows that you are not willing to take responsibility for your life and to actually change something about your situation. Women want guys who take action and not guys who complain about why they can’t take action.
10. You Are Submissive in Your Social Circle
What if you only fake confidence while you are around her?
In case you are familiar with my writing you know that I am not a big fan of the fake it till you make it strategy and the girl you are dating won’t be either.
Believe me, I am the alpha…
You can pretend to be the strongest and most confident guy in the world, but some day she will find out the truth.
Sooner or later you will be in a situation where she meets your friends, your colleagues or family members. What if you suddenly behave like a submissive dog once you are around those people? She will instantly know that everything you did before was just a game and she will feel betrayed. Not only her attraction, but also her respect for you will be gone.
Wouldn’t it be better to become a confident man who doesn’t have to fake anything?
It’s just a suggestion.
11. You Make Promises That You Can’t Keep
Promising a girl that you are going to call her the next day and waiting four days to call her is not cool. Promising her that you will love her forever and that you will never sleep with another woman again, right before you jump in bed with the next girl is also not cool.
Don’t make any promises that you can’t keep. If you don’t want a monogamous relationship you shouldn’t pretend that you want one. A woman will respect you ten times more when you tell her that you just want to have sex without any commitment, than when you claim the opposite, just to disappoint her afterwards.
As a Global Seducer you want to be the best memory she ever had.
Broken promises and one disappointment after another won’t lead to good memories. Authenticity and honesty will.
12. You Are Jealous
Another reason why women lose respect for men is jealous behavior. Just because your charm and your seduction skills made her fall for you, doesn’t mean that you can keep her forever. Of course you know that, otherwise you wouldn’t become jealous in the first place.
Jealousy has nothing to do with love. It is a sign of fear, insecurity and desperation.
Being jealous is anything but attractive and it is one of the fastest ways to get rid of every woman. Women want to be together with men who are confident enough to know that they won’t leave them, not with guys who fear that they’ll lose her to another man.
I never worry that my girlfriend leaves me. I know that she loves me and that she would be stupid if she would leave me, in the same way as I would be stupid if I would leave her. Sounds arrogant? Maybe, but she respects me.
13. You Judge Her for Being Sexual
We both know that you want to have sex with the girl you are on a date with. What a surprise. But what if she wants the same?
If you respect her when she has her shirt on and judge her for the desire to take it off, you have some serious issues.
For whatever reason a lot of guys want to see the girl naked who they sit next to, but they don’t allow her to have the same desire. Judging a woman for being sexually is one of the major reasons why women lose respect for men.
I remember a conversation with a guy who said that he only sleeps with women who are not that easy. He judged every girl who wanted to have sex with him on the first date by calling her as a slut.
Have you ever heard the saying “I would never join a club that wants me as a member”?
That’s a stupid mindset.
A girl who sleeps with you on the first date is NOT a slut.
She has the courage to do something that goes against the rules of society and she does it because she is into you. That’s the biggest compliment you can get.
If you judge a girl for being sexual, even though you obviously want to fuck her, you are not only a hypocrite who misses out on a great experience, but also a guy who loses her respect within seconds. The only thing you should do if a woman wants to have sex with you is to have sex with her.
Here’s the complete guide to getting such a woman.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know why women lose respect for men? Women want confident men and if you don’t make the first move or apologize as soon as the conversation gets sexual, you don’t appear very confident. Putting her on a pedestal and acting like a dancing monkey are also not very effective tactics if you want to charm a woman.
Women instinctively respect men with leadership qualities. If you don’t have those qualities and if you then also hide your intentions, you shouldn’t wonder when she never texts back after the first date.
Stop complaining about your life and start to take action. Think about your vision and follow your own path. This will lead to more success with women than faking it in the hope that she won’t find out and making promises that you don’t want and can’t keep. Being jealous shows that you are an insecure wimp and judging a woman for her sexuality while you fantasize about banging her shows that you are a hypocrite. If you do those things you already know why women lose their respect for you.
Thanks, Kaaya
Wow. Spot on right.
Number 1 is ridiculous. I’m not sayin that’s not how it is but it really shouldn’t be that way. Yeah, I’m just one of those who’s been shunned and dissed and whatever else you might call it. Unfortunately I collect these failures inside so since the first approach apparently is my job then I’ll just stay single since I will(!) fail.
Hey Leo,
you don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not. Being vulnerable is extremely attractive.
I will accept that you might be right. But to be honest, I am sick to try to pretend to be something I am not and with no chances to make mistakes. It seems the game was designed to punish men for every move they make. You are kind? Dismissed. Sometimes you don’t have the answers? Dismissed. Too intelligent? turned down. You dont smile at every time? Hasta la vista. And guess what? When you finally get the girl, you realized most of the times that she is more insecure, more nervous and not that great person.Too much effort, too much everything , too much issues coming with your delivery and the reward is just an asset you can get in every corner for a lower price .I chose to live my live to the fullest, to pursue my own professional and personal goals, to travel around the world, to live a healthy live without the toxicity of majority f women.
Hey buddy,
I’m a dating coach…not a get rid of her coach 😛
Nicely written. 😀 Ive been using a similar method… then i sometimes get bored and show them what could happen… But the girls in question always seemed to pick up the pieces of my respect.. I purposely tried to sabotage myself, but why does it not work when i fall out of love, she wont leave me alone. =_=; and yes, i know this site is to help other men get women, but maybe you can help me lose this one?
You’d be surprised how much positive feedback I get from women. Most hate mail comes from married guys…which is quite funny.
I think women lose respect for men like you because most of your articles here are sexist.
Thank you. Yep, whenever I write articles that don’t allow men to blame others, I earn hate. But that’s worth it because the few men who get it embark on a journey of self-discovery and self-improvement.
I can’t help but notice how much hate this article gets compared to other articles. I think the reason it gets so much hate is because it is so god damn spot on.
Keep up the good work mate!
Hey Mike,
don’t loose your time with immature girls…I agree with that. But not all women are the same. You made a bad choice but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make a better choice in the future.
My ex GF is a pathologic manipulator, she left me cause I made dinner for her, helped her to avoid mistakes, listened to her when she was in pain, kept her laughing , and and and …. now she is happy with a douchebag who treats her like a piece of shit, without love and full of disrespect, don’t talk to me about respect and emotional weakness, most women today are just insane and bad . If women don’t see your qualities as a man, then leave them alone in their own BS world, be just yourself and don’t loose your time with immature girls !
with that attitude you’ll meet exactly the type of girls you describe. Life is a mirror.
This article is a cub scout’s with list. Women want two things from a man. A thick wallet and a thick dick.
The “author” got the first point wrong. When meeting her for the first time, never treat a woman with respect.Either ignore her or tell her a dirty joke. If she takes offense, that means there’s no open door there. Move on to the next prospect and repeat. Like any kind of sales, it’s a numbers game. A certain percent will cave in. As the old saying goes: Treat a whore like a lady and treat a lady like a whore. . . .
Yes, in almost every case, a woman who sleeps with you on the first date is a slut. I mean, do you think it’s only you? And her’s is the gender that is not wired to connect physically, as much as emotionally. So, its not just societal standards she’s going against, but her own core.
Huuui, you must have an amazing marriage…
Take responsibility for your life and don’t be an asshole. That should sum it up. Do you have any comments about men who loose respect for their wives and the mothers of their young children for wanting sex? I’d love to read those comments.
In my experience guys respect the one night stands, it’s the marriages where they want pity sex and not the real thing, so they make it bad and painful and humiliate her for it afterwards with insults name calling etc. Before marriage sex is a joint thing, most men won’t force or pressure or a bully a girlfriend. But once the wedding band is on he’s entitled and she’s obligated. Now the man wants the whole dominant submissive thing. I know the kink bs is out there but if the woman enjoys the sex, painful or not, he’s not dominating her. If she wants the sex then she’s only having sex on her terms because she enjoys, likes to have sex, is attracted to him, and wants to please him. But she’s still got control. He’s not in control of her and she’s still casterating him because she controls his access to sex. It only happens when she wants in ways she likes. Again the mutual consent, joint decision, mutually pleasurable stuff a woman does because she enjoys it and wants to please is something a man will tolerate from a girl friend but not a wife. To be dominant a man has to make a woman do this when she doesn’t want to and he knows she hates it and doesn’t want to do him any favors. The man has to start undermining her bond and attraction and pressuring her for sex when she isn’t willing and find ways to get compliance, prefably without violence because it’s all about an ego and power game. Again kink doesn’t work because he’s not dominant if she’s making the chocies, so no submissives who will use the safe word when they need to don’t really count, although a submissive who has a safe word but is to guilty of ashamed to use the safe word would be dominated. The woman has to hate sex, and let the man make her think she has to do it anyway for the man to be in control of his access to sex in marriage. It takes a lot to sexually break a woman sometimes it take years, but a lot of women with better boundaries pick up in it right away, that he gets mean and contemptuous and manipulative and is always much nastier shortly after sex. It’s confusing because the man seemed to soften from sex before marriage and tried to please he before marriage, but after marriage sex just makes the man cold and contemptuous and disgusted. This is where sexless marriages come from: men who think only unmarried women should want sex, or want to dominate a good girl who hates sex but will force herself to endure it because mentally he can make her do it anyway.
Hey Rowan,
thank you so much. I hope my advice can help you to improve your marriage!
Hi, Sebastian
Thank you for this very well researched and awesomely put together information. All the writing I have read of your is great.
I have searching for the answers you have provided me with for at least the last five years and I now feel empowered to improve an already great marriage.
Regards
Rowan
Hey Nina,
thanks for that comment.
That’s nonsense. There are plenty of women, myself included, who had sex on the first night and end up wanting a serious relationship.
Yes, go for it!
This is a well written article. I hurt my chances by being timid rather than being bold. I went slow because I did not want to wreck an opportunity. If I ad to do it all over again, i would have been much more agressive and get to the point. Sex. If she gave me a rejection, i would move on the the next rather than waste time on her. Guys, do not be shy. Go for it.
a woman needs to respect a man in order to feel attracted to him but a man doesn’t need to respect a woman in order to feel attracted to her, even Charles Sledge and other guys have said that too
Sad but true. There are many guys who settle for women who are not good for them.
because the girl is the one with the pussy. She knows, you know, the whole world knows, there are enough guys who will sell their soul for a bit of pussy.
Hey Akshay,
you understand that this is a website that’s dedicated to helping guys meet and attract women aka GIRLS, right?
Why we always talk about girls everywhere…? I mean no offense dude but.. Men also wants respect,love,honesty,courage etc..everywhere we go either youtube or anyother place..people always talk about girls..but why not guys ? I mean i dnt know what u belive in but a guy sacrifices more than a girl could ever can..
Hey Mickey,
there are many countries where women respect men.
Funny how women demand that guys respect them, yet most women have no respect, and even less tolerance for guys. That’s why meeting women is such an exercise in hopelessness
I can’t deny that some women are like that. And I also can’t deny that some men are the male equivalent to what you described. That’s why mastering the art of seduction is so powerful. It allows you to attract the right girls.
Some women are bitches plain and simple, they lie, cheat and steal because they don’t want marriage they want a thrill in the short run and a drama in the long. When you meet her she lays you on the first night because she couldn’t give a rat’s ass what your think if her because she won’t be round you all that long anyways, it’s the ones who take a couple or so months to bed you that actually want you in their life’s they take the time because they don’t want you to think of them in any other manner than the one they have derived for you it’s a case of her actions speak louder than her words. That one you screwed on the first night is an accident waiting to happen watch all the red flags your gut gives you and listen to your gut instincts because she is a short term ride and if she keeps you around for a few months she’s planning to get something from you that you don’t see comming most likely a baby that you will likely never get to see much of.
Hey Rajat,
it’s true that you will lose women by not “showing” these steps, but it’s even more likely that you lost these girls because you didn’t have respect for them. Just a suggestion.
Whatever is written in this article is actually true. I have lost many girls by not showing these steps towards sex, but I really don’t regret. Because if a slut is all I need it’s always available. (No offence, it’s my personal view just as those girls have to have sex with numerous men)
a woman can only have respect for a man who (in her eyes) deserves respect. Unfortunately, many Western women need glasses…
It is the women today that Don’t have Respect for us Good men anymore.
Word 😀
sex.
Not all women disrespect men. You might not like what I say now, but in most cases it is the fault of the man that he allows a woman to lose respect for him. If you are a man who demands respect, you will receive it.
If women have so much disrespect for men, what’s the point in guys chasing after them?