Do you have the right height for the following dating tips for short guys?
In case you are under 5.5 I can already hear you whining and complaining…
“I am too short. No woman will ever want to have sex with me!”
“Everybody knows that girls only like tall guys. I am screwed!”
“I can’t even fuck her doggy style, because her ass is right under my nose!”
I know that you think you are screwed.
I know that you think that you will never find the long-legged model of your dreams, or at least a girl who is horny enough to ride you like a rodeo horse, just because god was so freaking unfair and made you look like Danny DeVito.
You might see me with my not really impressive 5.8 and think that I never had the same problem as you have right now.
Well, that’s not entirely true.
Yes, I am not particularly short now, but when I was around the age of 18 I was nearly the smallest guy in my class.
To be honest, I didn’t feel very good about it. Whenever I saw one of the tall and muscular guys who weighted more than me with my pathetic 50 kilos I was intimidated and convinced that every girl would choose him over me.
Besides my young looks, my scars and my social fears, my height was definitely one reason why I wasn’t successful with women. At least I thought that my height was the true reason. Today I know that it was the way I dealt with it and not the amount of centimeters itself.
In case you are under 20 and you are searching for dating tips for short guys, my first tip would be to wait another two years and to find out if your growth process is already finished. When I was 18 I grew ten centimeters within a timeframe of one year.
It was so fucking painful.
If you, however, are over 25 and you are pretty sure that you won’t grow anymore, you should continue reading this article in order to find out what you can do to succeed at dating when you are smaller than Shaquille O’Neal’s left toe.
I Don’t Want to Lie to You
I will show you how you can succeed at dating, even if you are the shortest guy at your school, college or work place, but there is one thing that I won’t do.
I won’t lie to you.
You might get angry at my for saying what I am about to say and I know that I risk that you leave my website and run over to some marketing guru who promises you to have sex with every woman on this goddamn planet, even if you are a midget.
However, I promised myself to always be honest with you, even if this honesty might hurt you.
The uncomfortable truth is that a guy who is over 6.0 has it a bit easier to date the women he wants to date, than a guy who is below 5.5.
That’s a simple truth you have to accept. Talking yourself into believing that EVERY girl is into guys who are smaller than her is definitely not the fastest way to attract amazing women into your life who are taller than you.
The harsh reality is that a lot of girls are into guys who are taller than they are.
That doesn’t mean that you should bury your head in the sand.
Whereas a tall guy might need 6 approaches to get a girl’s number, you need 10. After you have read and internalized the following dating tips for short guys I am pretty confident that you don’t need more than 5 approaches until a hot girl types her number into your phone.
Before I am going to reveal the height-changing…I mean life-changing tips that allow you to attracted long-legged models into your life, I want to give you a proof that there is still hope for you, even without the dating tips for short men that I am going to share with you.
There is Hope for You
It is true that most women are attracted to guys who are at least a few centimeters taller than they are. However, just because MOST girls want a guy who can kiss their forehead without jumping like a kangaroo, doesn’t mean that ALL girls think this way.
You might not (want to) believe it, but there are actually quite a few girls who are incredibly attracted to short guys. Every person has a different taste and is attracted to different things.
Just because the mainstream belief is that tall men are more attractive, doesn’t mean that all women on this planet share this belief.
In the same way as there are men who are attracted to tall models and men who are attracted to tiny cute girls (like me), there are also women who are attracted to tall guys and women who get wet as soon as they see a guy who is below their height.
The 10 Best Dating Tips for Short Guys
Do you still believe that short guys have no chance to succeed at dating? Do you still think that you will never find a woman who is attracted to you?
I hope this video made you realized that there are women who are explicitly attracted to men who are shorter than them. In case you still doubt that you can attract amazing women into your life, there are still 10 other things you can do.
1. Don’t Define Yourself as The Short Guy
Do you know what we men are extremely good at when it comes to the reasons why we don’t succeed with women?
We are very good at handing over the responsibility to someone or something else. We are good at talking ourselves into believing that it is not our mistake that we don’t have the success we truly want to have. We are good at blaming external circumstances for the misery we are in.
Do you also know why we are so good at this?
It is easy.
It is easy to blame someone else for the fact that we don’t do what we want to do and that we are not the person we actually want to be. It is easy, because we can’t be blamed for NOT taking action and for NOT changing our beliefs and our behavior.
If Peter Dinklage would have had this minset he wouldn’t have become a famous actor, the husband of a beautiful tall woman and a happy father.
It’s definitely the easy way out, but is definitely NOT the path that leads you on the road to success with women.
Is your height the reason why you take the easy way out?
If you identify yourself as “the small guy” and if you constantly blame a couple of centimeters for the fact that you don’t have sex with beautiful women, you are on the road to misery, never-ending frustration and deep regret.
All I want to say is:
Stop Defining yourself as “the small guy” and stop blaming your height for your miserable dating life!
Yes, it might be harder for you to date catwalk models than for a guy who is as tall as Arnold Schwarzenegger, but that doesn’t mean that you are allowed to hide under your blanket while you are whining that life is so goddamn unfair.
Define yourself as the fun, outgoing, intellectual, intelligent, adventurous and interesting human being that you are. A few centimeters more or less are no excuse to hide in your room, while other guys approach the girls that you want and deserve.
2. Confidence Has Nothing to Do With Height
Even though I prefer tiny and cute women, I had a phase where I tried to date the tallest girls. I believe every aspiring pick up artist who hasn’t yet made the transition to a real seducer who is honest with himself and with the women in his life, has this phase.
It’s the phase where you think that you made it in the PUA heaven when you are able to date tall and long-legged models. Well, that’s what I did, until I finally accepted the fact that I am not into tall girls. But that’s another story.
So I dated those girls who were a lot taller than me. I think the tallest woman I dated was a young girl who did some modeling. She was about 6.3 and with high heels she could spit on my head.
Every single one of my friends who saw me with her wanted to know if I feel insecure around her. Thanks to the fact that I had spent a lot of time working on my inner game, practicing meditation and developing a high level of self-confidence, I had absolutely no clue what they were talking about.
Due to my baby face I looked like the little brother of the girls I was going out with, but that didn’t change anything about the fact that I was confident in their presence.
I knew that confidence has absolutely nothing to do with heights.
No matter if I, as a guy who is 5.8 dates a girl who is 6.3, or you as a guy with 5.3 date a girl who is 5.8, our height and our confidence have nothing to do with each other.
The only place in which these two variables are correlated is your head.
Instead of blaming your height for your low self-esteem, you should rather do something about it.
3. Your Posture Gives You 4 cm
A great way to feel smaller than you actually are is to walk around with a hunchback as if you are a 70 year old fabric worker who has worked all his life without ever seeing a physiotherapist or a massage studio from the inside.
Today’s work environment makes it extremely easy for us to walk around like the Hunchback of Notre Dame. We sit in front our computers all day and even though you know that you should sit straight without your back hunting, you probably don’t do it.
It takes me between four and six hours to write, edit and upload one article, so I am definitely also guilty of this.
However, I spend a lot of time in the gym and I am very careful that my posture doesn’t suffer from my writing addiction. If you want to become successful with women, you should do the same.
Work on your posture, make sure that you don’t walk around like an old man who just waits for the final stroke and walk with your head held high, whenever you are walking towards a beautiful woman who you want to get to know.
Unfortunately, a lot of people who feel small walk around in a way that makes them even smaller.
By now you have hopefully understood that there is no reason to hide and that I don’t accept your height as an excuse. Stop walking around hoping that nobody sees you and start walking around as if you are ten centimeters taller than you actually are.
You might not be able to trick the next woman you meet into believing that you are really ten centimeters taller, but she will definitely assume a couple of more centimeters than she would if you would walk around with a cat’s arched back.
4. Your Style Can Give You another 3 cm
What clothes should you wear when you are a tiny man?
Well, in case you are not particularly tall, there are a few style faux pas that you should avoid at all cost.
I would say that you do yourself a favor by avoiding everything that makes you look immature.
I follow this rule too. In my case it’s not because I am a short guy, but because I am extremely young looking. No matter if you have a baby face, or a tiny body, clothes can have a huge influence on how old you look.
If I’d walk around with baggy pants and a trucker cap, I would look like a 16 year old boy. Please correct me if I am wrong, but guys who wear baggy pants and a trucker caps are the definition of immaturity.
Show me one short guy who looks cool with a trucker or baseball cap and I walk around with such a stupid thing for the rest of the year.
As a guy who is not that tall you’ll have a hard time to convince a woman that she is not dating a kid, when you are walking around like one. That’s why you should focus on clothes for grown-ups that communicate maturity.
A nice suit, an elegant blazer and a slim fit shirt that doesn’t look as if you would wear a tent are perfect to make the next woman you talk to think “He might be shorter than the last guy I dated, but he is definitely better looking!”
5. Your Shoes Can Give You another 2 cm
What shoes can you wear to be able to kiss a girls mouth instead of only being able to press your lips against her boobs?
Chucks and Vans shouldn’t be your first choice.
High heels are also not a good choice, unless you want to follow the extreme sick trend of our society that tries to condition young boys to wear women’s cloth. So unless you want to run around like Will Smith son you can leave the high heels to the girls.
What you want to look at are business shoes with small heels and boots that give you a few additional centimeters without forcing you to walk around like a drag queen. In fact, I heard from a lot of women that they can’t resist men who wear elegant business shoes and manly boots.
You see, replacing the fabric and leather around your feet can have more benefits than the additional two centimeters that you get.
6. There are Countries Where You are Big
As you hopefully know my site concentrates on seducing women all over the world. As you hopefully also know this world consists of countries in which the women are long-legged and taller than a transformer (Russia) and of countries in which the women are tiny and cute (Asia).
I don’t say that you shouldn’t try to date tall women. If you are attracted to Russian models that you could lick without bending down, you should definitely walk up to them and say hi. Nevertheless, it might be a good idea to broaden your dating horizon by visiting countries in which you are seen as a giant, instead of a midget.
I would say that my height of 5.8 is pretty average. In the Netherlands I would already belong to the tiny fraction of people who are, well, tiny. In the Philippines I met people who asked me what I was eating all day, because they were amazed at how tall I was. In China I probably would have made the same experience.
Changing the environment you are living in has the power to transform you from a midget into a giant. You can of course continue to hunt the extremely tall girls until you finally get to know how (normal) it feels to date a long-legged model.
Just keep in mind that visiting countries that allow you to kiss every girls head without jumping can make a big difference in your dating life.
7. Turn Your “Weakness” Into Your Strength
Now you know how to prepare yourself internally and externally for the next time a smoking hot model walks past you. You stopped defining yourself as a short guy, you walk and look like a mature man and you are ready to run after her and to make her day.
The big question is:
What do you say?
Well, let’s start with the things you shouldn’t say.
The worst thing you can do is to directly communicate to her that you think it is weird that you even talk to her. Something like “I know that you are a lot taller than me, but I had to approach you anyway” is not an ideal first sentence.
Addressing the elephant in the room is actually a good idea, but you have to do it in a way that makes you appear confident and not insecure.
Making her uncomfortable by showing her how awkward it is for you to approach a taller girl is a sure way to fail. Making her feel comfortable while addressing the elephant in the room with confidence and playfulness is a sure way to succeed.
8. Turn Uncomfortable Situations in Fun Situations
Now you know how you can approach a woman who is a lot taller than you, but what do you do when you are on a date and the situation gets a bit awkward.
What do you do when you sit down in front of a high table and you can barely look her into the eyes?
What do you do when you want to hold her hand during a dinner, but you would have to lean over to reach her?
You basically have two options.
A: Make a big deal out of it, show that you are completely embarrassed and hope that the red color in your face will eventually go away.
B: Make a fun comment and show her that such a situation doesn’t impact your level of comfort, even though you have shorter arms than a T-Rex.
We both know which reaction leads to unanswered phone calls and which leads to a smile on her face and the desire to rip your small sized clothes off.
Just turn a situation that would be uncomfortable for most short guys into a fun situation and you are good to go. Even though this is one of the dating tips for short guys, I used the same principle in regards to my young looks.
Whenever someone asks for my ID I can react in two different ways.
A: I can get red and say that this never happened before (which she wouldn’t believe)
B: I can say that I am so proud that my genes hold the key to eternal youth.
If I can say this, you can also say that the big table you are sitting at is designed to prevent people from having sex in public. This will make her laugh, whereas nervously stumbling some excuses why you can’t hold her hand will make her feel very uncomfortable.
9. Do the “Tall Boyfriend Things” Anyway
I asked a couple of my female friends why they are into taller guys and the number one answer I received was something like this:
“Well, it’s just so romantic when a guy embraces you and gives you a kiss on the head. When you then lean your head against his shoulder you feel protected.”
This is what women want to experience by dating a tall guy.
Now millions of short guys who read this article will think that they are fucked, because they are not tall enough to kiss a girl on the head.
In case you are one of these guys I want you to calm down!
You might not be taller than her, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do the “tall boyfriend things” with her.
Nobody said that she has to stand when you kiss her on the head. Nobody said that you can’t sit on the couch while she leans her head on your shoulder.
You can do all those things. You only have to be a bit more creative.
10. Don’t Ram It Into Her Head
What’s the best topic to talk about on a date with a woman who is a lot taller than you?
You can talk about everything, besides your height!
It’s the same as if you would endlessly talk about your age, when you are dating women who are older than you.
Addressing the elephant in the room once is okay, but riding that bloody animal the whole evening can kill the whole date.
She went on a date with you, even though she knows that you are shorter than her. This is all the proof you need to realize that she doesn’t give a fuck about your height. Dating you is completely normal for her. The worst thing you can do now is to talk her into believing that it is not normal.
If you talk about your height all the time, she’ll inevitably get the feeling that you have some serious issues with it. That’s anything but attractive.
You can talk about anything you want (here are some ideas) as long as you don’t put an issue in her head that only exists in your head.
Instead, put some knowledge in your head and enjoy your first date with her!
Summed Up Wisdom
I don’t want to lie to you. As a short guy you might have to overcome one or two hurdles more in order to find the long-legged girl of your dreams than your tall competitors. However, that doesn’t mean that your situation is hopeless. There are in fact girls who are extremely attracted to short guys.
Even though you might meet these girls, it is never wrong to adhere to some good dating tips for short guys. You have to stop defining yourself as the short guy and start realizing that your confidence has nothing to do with your height. I don’t accept your height as an excuse to not take action.
Work on your posture, don’t dress like a teenager who is about to finish high school and don’t wear shoes that clatter your feed on the ground. In case you don’t want to use all these methods to appear taller, you can still travel to countries in which the people are on average smaller.
Turn your weakness into your strength by dealing with your “issue” in a playful way. Whenever you are faced with an uncomfortable situation you can rescue it with humor. And don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do the “tall boyfriend things”. You just need a bit more creativity.
Sebastian Harris says
this is pretty normal.
Sebastian Harris says
she wants something who’s confident enough to date her.
Mike Williams says
I recently met a very attractive taller woman and since I am 6’1” and she claimed to be 6’3” and honestly what column do I fall into, shorter guy dating a taller woman or tall guy dating a taller woman and in public she’s like this majestic towering woman who I find myself constantly looking up at and she looking down on me and it’s a very humbling feeling and she senses that and as much as I try it’s a problem for me to get past our height difference.
Sebastian Harris says
I’m happy for you!
Sebastian Harris says
I hope this article helped you.
Randy Blum says
Found this interesting blog looking for maybe some answers to why taller women give me a feeling of like humble, insecurity and plain manliness no matter what is said or the fact she
might show interest even though she flat out towers over me. I was with an attractive woman the other evening who just totally towered over me and at various times while even walking would make all over me putting her arm and hands on my shoulder and bending at her knees
and leaning down over to have to kiss or hug me
and by these actions it only made me feel more insecure for lacking height not my fault to be in this position as opposed to being able to take this very attractive woman into my arms as she
deserved as a very unique attractive woman.
I am 5’9” and she is 6’2”
Jerry Edmonds says
Found this blog and it is quite interesting since I
am not a shorter male being 6’, however recently
being in a relationship with a very attractive woman who’s stature is 6’7” and that would qualify me as being with a taller woman. I will
admit to some insecurities, anxieties and other feelings that for me go with having this very attractive woman who flat out towers over me
while standing and walking together and for me the awkwardness in those situations to try and hug or kiss her like almost impossible and only because of her sensitivity and her embracing the situation am I hopeful I will be able to get past these obstacles for she is a fabulous person and the sex is great.
Sebastian Harris says
that’s awesome and I’m sure it will motivate a lot of guys
Craig Markus says
I have been looking at numerous blogs of late regarding taller women shorter men situations.
As a reasonably tall 6’1” goodlooking guy in a relationship with a gorgeous woman who is 6’6” and when we are standing my hands seem to go
to her hips she will move my hands up as she waits for me to try and reach her lips and when she wears heels it becomes even more awkward or difficult to embrace, kiss this drop dead gorgeous woman who is much taller than me barefeet and in heels just towers over me and doesn’t seem to give it a second thought.
When people ask about our height difference, her response ‘ ask my boyfriend ‘. It’s the best lying down, awkward difficult while walking and standing.
Sebastian Harris says
I hope my article helped you!
Brady Heaton says
I was shown your blog and as a male 5’11” I have never considered myself short, since my present gf is 6’1” and the problems seems to come to light when she wears those heels and we meet her mother who is 6’4” and treats me like i’m some midget and when I am next to her and she wears heels, maybe her point is well taken especially since they both tower over me.
Sebastian Harris says
now that’s what I call an inspiring story!
I am 4’9 and was quite intimidated by tall women for most of my teen years, yet super attracted to them. I am now in my late 20s and have overcome that petty insecurity. I have dated countless taller women than me ranging from 5’5 to the higher 6s. Currently i am dating a 7’6 gorgeous woman who stands 7’9 with heels. We often go out and people cant stop staring! Her hands are the size of my head and her feat are 2 1/2 times bigger than mine. When i stand next to her the top of my head reaches just above her belly button. Even though their is a clear height difference she finds me irresistable and often chases me around our house like a T-rex chasing its meal. We have found the best way to get around is if she grabs me by the belt and carrys me like a breif case.
Sebastian Harris says
forget about medicating yourself with pills. That won’t work. You can shoot me an email (I have a contact form on my website menu) and I will see how I can help you.
Morgan Campbell says
Stumbled across this blog and my issue is somewhat different and I have been really ashamed to confront it face to face sit down with a professional. I am a goodlooking man 6’2” middle age and since high school and college have been drawn(attracted, obsessed, call it what you want) to much taller girls, now women,
I don’t mean taller by wearing heels, they must tower over me barefeet and then prefer they wear heels. I have been with women from 6’3”
to 6’9” and then add heels, I am not looking for the tallest woman in the world, and I am for the most part very up front about this and many times the women will go along and many times it’s a one and done and in some cases never happens. I only now know the perfect height and body/legs/ankles and shoe size for me
I have no idea where all this comes from, I would like to maybe take a pill so I can finally get on with a normal life and get this all behind me.
Sebastian Harris says
I’m glad you stumbled upon my site and I’m sure you’re comment will inspire a lot of guys.
Derrick Dubow says
I just found this blog while trying to kill
like 16 hrs on a flight to Australia and found some interest since I am a goodlooking guy 5’8” not either the shortest or tallest of height and in my earlier years in College and then starting my career most tall gals really weren’t interested and in some cases we like became friends. I do agree with a lot of points, as I never make a big deal about a women’s height or if I am shorter and in fact appreciate and will embellish a very tall beautiful woman and in fact something else I won’t discuss is my financial successes.
Usually around 6’ is about the maximum height and then throw in her heels that I would be comfortable with and it needs to be a two way street. I am presently with a beautiful woman who is sitting next me and laughing as she is 5’11” and won’t leave the house without her heels, right Linda, yes Derrick.
Brad Rodgers says
I have always been challenged by my shortness and being a male 5’3″ even with good looks and all thru my early years the rejections many and in
many cases very hurtful. Now years later with financial success, it seems my diminutive stature
seems of little concern to very tall beautiful age
appropriate women and in fact my present significant other is 6’4″ and appreciates the life style and ignores our extreme height difference and in fact many times goes with those heels and becomes totally out of reach.
Sebastian Harris says
I’m sure that your comment will envourage many short guys to finally approach the tall girls. Thanks a lot!
Short dude here like 5’4″ and have always been
attracted by the super tall gals with legs as long as I’m tall and for the past several years have been with a beautiful woman who is 6’7″ barefeet and goes with 3″ heels and it’s never been intimidating to me as it seems to be with some people who come in contact with us.
My head comes to her waist and her shoe size is
13 mine is 7 and her hands are twice as large and much better for you know what.
Lying down sometimes has been awkward, but
we have figured it out and as she indicates all the time, it’s such a turn on to be so dominate and be dominated at the same time.
Sebastian Harris says
you see, you don’t have to be a tall guy to get a threesome 😉
The issue remembers me the lyrics of the beautifull Peter Gabriel’s song “my body is a cage”, also apply to ugly men.
I knew an obnoxious Bad Boy who was short (about 5’6″) and was dating 2 attractive women who were taller than him….and he was having sex with both of them….So yes, it can be done. These girls knew each other and were OK with it. They were happy to share the exciting asshole Bad Boy..I am not kidding. There was another girl always hanging around and he was probably having sex with her also judging from her conduct.